[Ellieclaire]

I've been dating this guy for 8 months.

Its started really amazing and I thought he is "the one" until in 3 or 4 months in the relationships he started getting angry at me for playing twitter and Facebook, cause he says he don't understand who I'm telling my feelings to.

And he always say that I don't miss him, and I have to tell him again and again that I do (6-10 times).

We also got into this huge fight about going college, because the college I wanted to go to is different from his. And he insist that we should go to the same one, but I don't want to cause I don't feel the need to.

And one major problem is I'm a dancer, dancing is practically my life before I met him.
But he ask me to quit it but he didn't tell me the reason why and I did.
I think its because he don't like guys to look at me.
And problems like, deleting Facebook friend, I cannot go out with friends also occur.
I love him so much but I don't think its right. What should I do?

[DoulaLC]

What would you say to your best girl friend if she told you the same situation was happening with her boyfriend?

I would say end it now, as it will only get worse... as you have already seen. How much more are you going to let him tell you what you can and can not do?

It is very scary when someone is that possessive and controlling of your life. He is very insecure and needs to be in control... you won't change that.

[talaniman]

Seems to me you love him so much you are willing to allow him to tell you what to do. If you allow bad behavior, that's exactly what you will get, and its much to soon to fall under the spell of a darn fool who is nothing but a big bully.

Tell him to go to hell, and get a real man, who loves and supports you, NOT seeks to make you his pet, or slave. To bad you don't love yourself, as much as you THINK you love him.

[Jake2008]

The whole thing about a suitable partner/boyfriend/husband/friend etc. is that no matter what the differences are, communication, respect, and dedication to the relationship, is the foundation to overcome problems that up.

It is not two individuals, one dominant, and one made into the dominant one's version of who his partner should be.

Each individual brings 100% to the relationship. One cannot take away the autonomy of the other, or make character demands, and undermine the others choices, freedom, and liberty, in order to suit themselves.

One party or the other may be willing to compromise on which movie to go and see Friday night, or which car to buy, or when to have a dinner party. But to expect that their partner will alter their needs, wants, personal freedoms, and give of themselves to such a degree, in order to satisfy the insecure needs of the other- well, you tell me, is it worth losing yourself?

[mmresd]

You break up with the abuser and continue trying to reach your lifegoals. Someone that treats you in that manner does not love you.