[smithy9898]

And we were getting really close and when I asked her out the first time.. She said no.. However recently I've been talking to her and she told me how she really likes me and asked me if I felt the same way?
Obviously I said yes. I was taking it slow at first - we didn't go out then- waiting for it to get more serious but then I popped the question one night and she said yes!. but in secret :O anyway after a while she had sorted thing out and we started dating. I thought that everything was going fine until 2 nights ago I told her I was feeling a bit said.. And I didn't know why. She then told me that we should break up because its probably her making me sad.
Now I KNOW its not her because after 5 minutes of doing something I liked I was happy again. But this had upset her.
She was now suggesting a break up because of her now.. (she needs to sort her self out before getting back into a committed relationship.. So we have broke up. BUT she said that she wants me to wait for her whilst she sorting whatever out (she won't tell me) but this is killing me. I cannot sleep very well and when I'm not sleeping I think of her.. I don't want to eat and when I do I feel sick and I don't want to do things I enjoy. She has said multiple times a day that she loved me so much it hurts.. And I feel the same.

But why with the break up.. This is my first real committed relationship and not hers and I would like some advice on how I can deal with the waiting and what I should do with the relationship (I didn't think we needed time apart)

By the way I'm in year 9 of school (I'm English)

[I wish]

You can't force her to do anything that she doesn't want. Right now, she doesn't want the same type of relationship that you're looking for. There's no way to know if she will ever change her mind, you can wait, but only time will tell what's going to happen.

There's no way to know how long you're going to have to wait because we can't read her mind and no one can predict the future. And there's no guarantee that she will change her mind about you. So you have to decide whether you want to wait for something that may never happen.

[mannyE11]

Since you both like each other, waiting should not be a problem. Tip 1: don't pressure her. Tip 2: u seem to know her, but do you know yourself? Why where you unhappy when you were with her? Find out what makes you happy when you are with her and what doesn't. Tip 3: talk to her. Be honest and open with her. Hide no secrets or feelings. You are young. So the sleepless nights and not eating are understandable. I've been in those relationshipsand am going through it again. You must realize that time is something that you can't control. Be patient. I know it is hard. But perseverance is rewarded in the end. Tip 4: alwaysbe there for her. Don't be overbearing, but let her know that you are there when she needs someone to talk to, that you are the shoulder for her to cry on when she is sad. I hope things work out for you. Keep me updated. And if things don't work out, then its not because you don't deserve it, its because you deserve better. #dont.give.up