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Eastcoaster48 · Nov 4, 2011, 12:02 PM

I've been dating my boyfriend for about 6 months now, he told me about a month into it that his ex is having his baby. He wants absolutely nothing to do with her, but of course wants to be involved in his son's life. This girl is crazy though, she got pregnant and thought that, that would bring them back together and make them a happy little family. I've never been in this position nor never dated a guy who has a kid (or about to). I don't know what to do or how to deal with her or even what my place is. I love him very much, but I'm 24 have a good job, going to school. Is this something I really want to get involved with? Please any advice would help. Thank you!

mmresd · Nov 4, 2011, 12:43 PM

That is your decision, if you want to be a part of his life of not. However, how he resolves the problems and his child's mother is completely out of your jurisdiction, you have no say, and you should not try to give any input in that regards. If he needs or wants your help he will ask for it, but don't introduce yourself into their problems, as they do not regard you. Your place is as his girlfriend, and act accordingly.

Eastcoaster48 · Nov 4, 2011, 12:57 PM

Very true. Thank you.

talaniman · Nov 5, 2011, 09:20 PM

Unless you have first hand knowledge that she is crazy as HE says, then be cautious of a guy that has a pregnant female he just left.

I doubt that 6 months is enough time to know exactly what you may be dealing with, since obviously he has been on good behavior, and putting his best foot forward.

No matter if what he says is truth, or not, for sure they have a lot of unfinished business together. I do mean a lot. Pay close attention, and protect yourself, until you learn a lot more, IF you chose to continue seeing him.

Nanny68 · Nov 23, 2011, 09:40 AM

Hello, I deal with Baby Momma Drama everyday. My husband has a child with a woman he has never been in love with nor did he have a relationship with. He met her in a bar, had 3 weeks of fun discovered she is nuts, broke up and then found out she was preganant. This woman is justifiably insane. So here is my advise, if he is worth staying with accept that this insanity may never end. You may never stop paying for an attorney because even though courts say the father has rights, those right come after the mothers and she rules. If you think for one minute that this relationship is short term, then run. My husband and my step-son are worth every issue I deal with. I did set boundries at the beginning and I do not talk to her. I also do not let her allegations, negative comments or just general hatefulness get to me. There are moments that she can make me angry but I defuse it as soon as possible. If she gets to me she wins and I will never let that happen. Prioritize your family, don't get caught up in the insanity because it is not good for anyone. And be all means never discuss what is going on with Baby Momma in front of this child, it hurts him/her worse than it can ever hurt you. Good luck...