[bezzabell]

Hi all just curious if someone can answer what I cant, this is my story.

My boyfriend and I were together for about 1.5 years. We met pretty much when we first arrived in this new city and were just in absolute love. We didn't spend much time apart at all. Our friends are the same and all that jazz, so our relationship was strong, really strong, then he became a bit lazy -- not making his own decisions and only doing something if I did it, and whatever I did he would want to do.

I found this extremely annoying. For instance, I wanted to go to the gym, then he followed me, and never thought for himself. The last two weeks of our relationship--you could tell it was dying because sex was boring--I was always the one to please myself. He wouldn't even know how if I showed him. Our connection died a while ago, but it was still somewhat there.

He gets mad at me if I don't call him at the end of the night to come home with me and makes me feel so bad about it! He broke up with me because I was selfish and to focused on myself, never making decisions for us, only for myself. Since he broke up with me, I cried a little and do feel a little sad but...

He has called me a million times to try and work things out, but I just don't want to do it--as if I have just switched off my feelings towards him... Is this normal?

[vanheart]

You are doing the right thing by focusing on yourself.

"he has called me a million times to try and work things out but i just don't want to"

So don't.

Nuff said.

[talaniman]

Sure its normal, it was fun while it lasted but now for you, the thrill is GONE!

[CavaCava]

Yes, you have just fallen out of love!

[Fr_Chuck]

Doubt if it really was "love" perhaps life with a lot of sexual pleasure. You did a lot of things, but when real life hit it started to get a little boring. He was doing things to please you, doing what you wanted and it was not enough for you.
Then after a couple weeks of poor sex you want to throw in the towel,

Do it and get on with life.