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yconfused · Oct 24, 2011, 11:31 PM

I was with my ex for two years. We broke up because we weren't in the right place to have a relationship. We were both working on getting our degrees and to be honest I was a bit emotionally a wreck. I was dealing with a lot of family issues and definitely took it out on him. I know I pushed him away. Anyway, at first we still dated but we started moving on after some time. About a few months ago he started calling me and we started hanging out. Neither of us has brought up getting back together. I know he isn't the most open person when it comes to his feelings and to be honest I have those moments that I feel he still loves me and those where I am not so sure.

Getting to the point, I recently found out I am pregnant and am so confused. I know I want to keep it there is no question to that.

The problem is when I found out I got depressed.I guess I just don't know how to tell him. I want to know if we have a future before I tell him, but I know how he is and its hard to get him to express his feelings honestly. But I also feel that if I tell him about the baby before asking how he feels he is might just want to rekindle our relationship for the babies sake. He is a great guy no question to that. I guess I am just trying to figure out how to go about this while determining if we have a future together. In case you can't tell I still love him, I am just scared of getting hurt.

kcomissiong · Oct 25, 2011, 09:20 AM

I'm sorry to be harsh, but at this point your relationship with him is secondary. He has the right to know that you are carrying his child, whether he wants to be with you. Your relationship status should have absolutely no bearing on this. You need to tell him immediately, and discuss your plans for the pregnancy with him. You have had the chance to make a choice about keeping the baby and to come to grips with your impending parenthood. He deserves that same chance.

mmresd · Oct 25, 2011, 10:38 AM

He needs to know you are carrying his baby. Don't push into doing anything, he will have to take responsibility for his actions whether you two are together. Let him make that decision on his own, you worry about your health and your mood, the last thing you want is something to happen to the baby because of you getting depressed, remain positive, remain healty, and always look forward.

talaniman · Oct 25, 2011, 02:43 PM

You have no choice but to be honest in my view.

Tell him ASAP!!!!

samm101 · Oct 28, 2011, 03:48 PM

You need to tell him as soon as. The more you delay it then the more complicated you make it.

Fr_Chuck · Oct 28, 2011, 05:36 PM

NO, this is not about any relationship with him, and even considering connecting this, he will be the father if he never talks to you again, he will be the father if he sleeps with your best friend and has a child.

So you tell him, do it by email, by text, by phone call or by singing telegram if you want, but you have a obligation to tell him