[Friedchicken9]

Hey guys,

I am in kind of a little pickle. A few months ago, I dated a girl who was just not working out. She was extremely mean and rude to me and was extremely cocky about how great she looked. The relationship was never a two-way street. I felt like I was her little pet. So through out the few weeks we were together, I just couldn't feel like I could be with her and because of that, I just wasn't my normal self because there were conflicting reasons inside of me. So when the relationship (if you can call it a relationship) was at its worst for me, I was both awkward and clingy because when I was with her I wanted to get out. When I was not with her, I wanted to be with her because I was scared that I was overreacting. She became even more mean and distant because of this, which fuel more gas to this fire.

Anyway, after a week of feeling like this, I called her out on it. I told her how I felt and if she would like... "we should just be friends or you should tell me what you want from me because I can't be guessing all the time if you like me or not". She called a week later and told me, "lets be friends. YOU SHOULD TAKE SOME TIME TO GET OVER ME because I have this switch to get over someone pretty quickly." So, I was pretty pissed to hear that cocky *** statement but I knew she was the type of girl that doesn't know what she was saying but to help me get some distance I unfollowed her on twitter so I can avoid her as much as possible without telling her that I needed the distance. (I know... It was an ego thing. I couldn't let her know that I needed distance. Don't want to feed that ego.)

I also started a tumblr. (this is important.)

Anyway, fast forward a few weeks from that point. We are kind of on and off. Talking... Not talking. She follows me on tumblr. Then, she tells me to look at her tumblr so I checked my followers since I know she started to follow me. She unfollowed me. I didn't say anything. I was like, "well, maybe she needs some distance too. I respect that." She tells me, "she has feelings for me but doesn't want to do anything about it." She is still mean. Then she is very nice. Then she is very mean... Blah blah blah. Mind you... I was extremely nice to her and was there for her throughout these weeks.

Anyway, she finds out that I unfollowed her on twitter. So, she texted me at 4:30 am, "I saw that you unfollowed me on twitter. I returned the favor."

I texted her back saying that I needed some distance in the beginning and that I would never do anything to hurt her. I even asked her if I could call her. She never texted me back. Well, the only thing she did do was following me back on tumblr. So, I stopped contacting her.

The more I write about this situation the more I don't feel that bad about not contacting her. But, I just want to make myself clear to her that I didn't mean to hurt her. I just unfollowed her because I got mad when you said, "you should take some time to get over me" not because it was all of a sudden move.

I know she sounds like the devil but she has a lot of emotional baggage, which I should have been very careful about but I went in anyway. She has been through a lot. I know she is a good friend. She is just weird when she is intimate with someone. It has been a few months since we last talked with each other. I don't want to be with her. I don't want a relationship. But, I don't mind being friends with her again.

So, I was wondering if it was a good idea to contact her to #1) clear things up and #2) start anew? Is it even possible? Should I even do it after all the **** she has put me through? **** that I know I didn't deserve. Did I do anything wrong? Did I overreact to the whole thing? Some of my friends said that she was joking about the twitter thing and that I was overreacting to the whole situation, which scared her away. Her birthday is coming up. Should I say, "happy birthday"?

Actually, guys, **** this *****. I just needed to rant. It cleared up a lot of doubts.

[JoeCanada76]

No do not contact her again.

It is obviously over.

You did not want a relationship with her anyway.

Saying happy birthday not a good idea.

Like you said you answered a lot of your own questions by writing everything out.

[vanheart]

I agree w/Joe.

Doesn't really sound like you liked her or this from the beginning.

"was just not working out"
"she was extremely mean and rude to me"
"The relationship was never a two-way street."
"I felt like I was her little pet"

What? Do you want more of that?

It takes 2.

I wouldn't talk to her ever again. Stay away from girls like that.

Good thing you are realizing who is wrong for you.

"I know she sounds like the devil"
Now that's funny. You crack me up.

[talaniman]

Nice rant, now enjoy life without her in it. Completely.

[mmresd]

Nope, don't talk to her ever again, she is a little girl that doesn't know what she wants. Get a woman. I would write out more but I feel like you have caught on, move on.