[Myson_MyAngel]

:( hello- I have a 4 yr old son... only child... doesn't get much of interaction with other children but we are in the progress of changing that.
He has recently started school and has done well the first week.
Didn't last long... he started coming home with the attitude that he knows all and controls all.
This is really unlike him and I was getting concerned about what may happen next.
Then it happened! Went to go get him from school and the teacher aproached with bad news.
Come to find it that my son had called her a horrible name in which I do not wish to type here... small hint... called her a stupid B word.:eek:. He has never heard this word that I know of.
I do not know where he got this from nor do I care to here it again coming from him.
I have no clue as to how to approach this problem. I have talked with him a little on the subject. He seems to understand a little at to what I am saying.
But how exactly do you get it clear to a soon to be 5 yr old that you just don't use those words.
My fiancé and I are at a loss being new parents and all.
Would really appriciate any help that someone can provide. :confused:
We have tried many different approaches to discipline... and I admit I am kind of behind on this subject cause it's hard for me to discipline my baby... But I do! Lol
Anyway, he has also been biting and hiting... he HAD a problem when he was 2 yrs old with biting but it didn't last long.
Time-outs seem to work OK with him but he seems not to realize that it's a bad thing to sit there in a chair and do nothing and be quiet.

PLEASE HELP! Lol

[mackenzie1]

Im sure you already know this but I find repeditivness (is that a word) works well with my girls... at least for the biting and hitting... always putting them in time out in the same spot over and over until they can tell me why they are in time out and why they shouldn't be biting or hitting and then of course appologize, now this can take time I have actually had to fight my 4yr old for an hour walking her back to time out over and over before she would say sorry and tell me why, but I promise in the end it pays off! The cussing I have no cule I haven't delt with this yet, I'm dreading the day...

[Myson_MyAngel]

you since this had happened yesterday, last night I searched frantically for answeres online and discipline procedures that may work.
you know how it sometimes makes you feel like a bad mom or is that just me?
I made him appologize to his teacher this morning and ended up with another eppisode of him wanting to come with me... usually he's happy to be away being that we spend so much time together as is.
Now that hurt.
So I thought about it for awhile and still am but I think it's just he is going through a lot of changes right now and may be a little confused. We'll see what I can do.
thank you so much for the help =)

[isabelle]

It sounds like he has hit a big problem... He has learned that everyone does not think he is special as his parents do. We all love our kids and we want them to feel special. It is hard when they get into the real world and find out that they are just another child.
I would set him down and try to explain that while you guys think he is wonderful that not every one will like him and that is OK. Try to explain that maybe he will not like every one he meets and that is OK too.
I had to do this with my child and she was ready when she went to school and prepared to see that she was not that special ( only to me) and to be specialat school she had to make a special effort. It didn't come free as it does at home.
I think you will be surprised how fast he will understand.. and keep up the hugs and the special feelings at home.. that he is number one at home.
It just sounds to me as if he is fighting because the real world has hit him and he does not understand why everyone isn't like the people at home. He has become just another child.
Hope this helps.

[Myson_MyAngel]

you he has had a lot of attention at home and from doctors his whole life... hopefully this to shall pass.
ty and I will do so in explaining that to him and explaining though he doesn't like someone he should still treat them as though he wants to be treated.
That's a big thing in my house anyway you'd figure he would know that lol jk.
but you thanks again for the great ideas and help it makes it easier on a new mom to have someone to talk to being my mother and friends are so far away =) I really appriciate it from the bottom of my heart