It doesn't seem like he's hiding anything. He's a flirty guy with female friends. Call them ego boosters.
And call them a little less than stellar in the scruples department too. What kind of girl flirts at 3 a.m. via text, with another girls' man. I think if they had the stuff of relationships, they'd each have their own going on, and wouldn't have to bother with somebody else's.
That being said, I presume he knows it bothers you. It would bother me as well. That he sees nothing wrong with what he's doing, and disregards how you feel (surely he must have given your feelings a little thought, before he decided to mix it up with other girls?), that would be the bigger problem for me.
There are certain things that any successful couple need, in order to build a future together. The biggest one is trust, and communication, and being considerate of your partner's feelings. Always putting the other first, and not having any doubt as to their honesty and comittment.
If he cannot see that his flirting/texting with other girls, is not very condusive to contributing to a healthy relationship with you, then what are you going to do about it.
He may stop the behaviour, at least in front of you, but can you trust that he will understand why you are upset, and then feel stupid that he was doing it in the first place? Or will he stop and be resentful, or consider you to be controlling and jealous.
But you won't know, until you talk this out. Better to invest a little time now instead of turning a blind eye, or being resentful. If it bothers you, it bothers you. He should have more than just stopping the calls/contact with other girls- he needs to understand why it is inappropriate in any serious relationoship.
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