[underpressure3]

Was with my girlfriend for 3 years; had some rocky times but generally good and feel with effort could have lasted.
She was always jealous of my friends so this led me to encourage her friendships. We both recently graduated but I am now an intern and have to work 7 days a week for a year to make ends meet. She however has finished all study and works normally and wasn't happy that we wouldn't have lots of time together. Prior to starting my internship she split up with me. Weeks later she was with a friend, one whose friendship I had encouraged.
Is she just on the rebound? Can you be on a rebound with a good friend?
I feel like a fool for telling her that I really wanted to be with her; even said I would give up the internship but she said that she no longer sees a future and likes someone else. Do you think she may have just been crazing attention while I was spending too much time studying?

[vanheart]

"he said that she no longer sees a future and likes someone else"

That's really all you need to know.

Don't waste anymore time on her.

[talaniman]

Naw, I think she was planning this break up for a long time. Sorry guy, but its best to move on and not worry about what she is doing with her freedom. Worry about what to do with yours.

[samm101]

Sorry to hear. I don't think its your fault. People can grow apart over time. Maybe the fact that you have had to spend all of your time working has driven a wedge. I mean if you spend all day working and then by the time your finished all you want to do is prob unwind and relax in the evenings while maybe she was hoping that you would want to do something with her. Its just that sometimes having those restrictions can hinder a relationship a bit. But you say you have been together for 3yrs,so if she had any feelings for you then they won't just go away. The problem is that maybe when she thinks of you now she pictures the way things were, you always busy studying or working & her feeling sidelined.. with this new guy he may appear more available to her & seem fun. It won't last more than likely esp since she's just out of a serious relationship. Don't go telling her u'll quit your job as Im sure she knows how hard you have worked to get that far & it'll end up leaving her feel guilty. Give her time, constantly be a positive presence in her life, show her a few reminders of how good you can be on your own and together.. most importantly keep yourself busy, get out there and spend time with your friends and what happens,happens!