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TwiRusher93 · Oct 11, 2011, 02:32 PM

I recently left my house for the summer to go visit some family in another city that I haven't seen in a few years. While I was down there I decided that I wanted to move down there for good. Now my sisters have been ignoring me, blocked me from Facebook and pretty much disowned me. We've never had a real good relationship. Them two have always had a good bond though. I'm the oldest I'm 18 and they are 14 and 17. It kind of depresses me. When I talk to my mom she pretty much has to force them into talking to me. Any advice?

joypulv · Oct 11, 2011, 02:58 PM

I wouldn't want anyone to force a sibling (or anyone) to talk to me. I'm not sure what the magic solution is after you chose to move away, and also were never close to them to begin with. At 14, 17, and 18, however, life is changing very fsst and often, and most of us change our feelings about people a lot in those years too. So I would sort of hang back and wait. Just be as considerate and thoughtful as possible and not complain about the cold shoulder, and eventually it should be OK. You could even say you are sorry that they felt so strongly about you moving and didn't want to hurt them.

Jake2008 · Oct 12, 2011, 05:51 AM

I agree with Joy. Don't feed into their anger, and force them to talk to you.

At 18, you could easily have had to move away from home to go to college, or you could have decided to share an apartment with a friend. I don't think that it is so much that you've moved, but that the move was sudden and unexpected.

For the time being I would keep it light and cheerful. Send them each an email once a week, letting them know what you are doing and how things are going. As they get used to hearing from you regularly, they will adjust to the fact that you do not live at home anymore, but you care enough to maintain contact.

In a few short years, they too will move out of the family home and be on their own, and at that time they'll understand far better because they will have matured.

If you play your cards right now, when they are older, your relationship with them may be far stronger as adults, than it was as kids.

0rphan · Oct 12, 2011, 02:47 PM

I think your sisters are feeling a bit abandoned,I wouldn't worry too much about it,I'm sure in time they will come round, especially if perhaps you can invite them to stay at some point.

Just keep them informed via a personal e-mail,that way they know you will be thinking of them.One day I am sure they will reply to you.