[forme27]

I am 27 and my boyfriend is 41, we have been dating for 3yrs now. When we first started dating he was always touching me giving me hugs and kisses, he would ask me if he could rub my back, and we always had sex. Now he does hardly any of that and I have to pretty much beg him to have sex. All he wants is for me to give him head and when I ask if we can have sex I still have to give him head before we do, we never fool around anymore before sex either and he always gets off and just leaves me with frustration. I do everything for this guy and I don't get anything back. I don't want to leave him, I love him very much (I don't know why), but I'm to the point of doing something wrong, I've never cheated before on anyone but I'm am really thinking about it. What should I do?

[smoothy]

You might want to seriously reconsider the relationship with him.

Do you actually tell him you are frustrated because you need to get off? Have you told him you want more foreplay?

I don't mean hinting around... I mean flat out asking him. If you have, he should have been more receptive, but remember one can not assume anything, communication is key.

As far as his preference for just BJ's to the exclusion of every thing else... you really have to very nicely ask him about why he doesn't like the other stuff.

Its clear you are meeting with his outstanding approval in that area. I've actuially dated women in the past I avoided a repeat performance of that with...

Perhaps it's a fear of pregnancy? Perhaps its his taste in personal grooming in that area not matching your own preferences... it might be a combination of things... or all of them as well as just a single one. It will require a very diplomatic breaching of the question at just the right time to see what's on his mind.