[yroc_doowrednu]

I'm 17 and I like this girl a lot, but there is a big problem. She considers me as her best friend. Her and I have had sex before in the past and that was a 3 some with her ex girl friend (when they were still together). This is now months later and we hang out all the time, I stay at her house almost every Friday and Saturday night. We usually sleep in the same bed but she won't even cuddle with me :(and every Sunday night I walk for 4 and a half hours just to get home because it's the only way I have to get home, but to me being with her all weekend is worth the walk, I'm starting to develop strong feelings for her and I am afraid to tell her because I am afraid it might end our friendship. It really bothers me when I'm around her because I like her so much. But I can't stop hanging out with her because I love to be around her. Is there any one out there that can help me? Please this is killing me...

[sunbeamrunner]

You have two options as I see it. Tell her or keep quiet and carry on as you are, struggling with your feelings in silence.

The simple but hard answer is that you need to tell her how you feel. Only then can you know if she likes you too or if there is never going to be any chance of a relationship forming between you.

Be prepared for the possibility of hearing an answer you don't want to hear. If she doesn't like you in the same way but wants to remain friends, you need to think hard as to whether you feel you can really do that or not. It is unhelpful to remain friends with her in the hope that one day she may change her mind - you need to stay friends with her for the right reasons, not for some lingering hope.