[alecjean]

I need to file paper work with family court . I live 3 hrs. A way . I am on S S D I not much money.it hurts to sit so long. Can I get my
Court case transfer to were I live?the mother can travel.better then I can.

[cdad]

Can you desribe your legal situation better?

Like what type of action this is? Did a court near you originally hear the case or was it in another town ?

[alecjean]

Child suport a vistation cousty.ti started in san mato ca. That were they live.every I had to do was there.now I am on ssdi with mo money left.I go 2 times a month.a 6 hr.drive round trip.for a 6 hour vit. I ben doing for 10yers.last 3yrs. Is because of the nedyounoes.she made I court.she dose not me in the lives .she did not have a dad her mon walk out no her dad and rased the kids the mon let do what ever they want aneything.she doing it now with me and the kids.she knows by the time court comes.what was don is.and knows she will no get in trouble.now she plands to take the kids to colo.soon.now how do I stop her.just because of the temp order she thinks she can tske the kids when& where she wants.I haf to stop her. Ever time the courts sids with her.she can say ney thing they bleve her. I think because she said we never live toghter,not married,not boy&gril friend.& 19 younger. I aney one can help I could us it some day when you need help I will. Thank you.

[ScottGem]

We would like to help, but I'm afraid, your last post is too unreadable. Can you please re-post it, taking care to use proper sentence structure and spelling.

The most I could get is that mother and child still live in San Mateo where the court orders started. This has been going on for 10 years. That the mother now wants to move to CO. And that you feel the court always sides with her.

[Wondergirl]

Here's my translation. Please check this, alecjean, to make sure this is what you had posted --

Child support and visitation/custody. It started in San Mateo, California. That's where they live. Everything I had to do was there. Now I am on SSDI with no money left. I go two times a month, a six-hour drive round trip, for a six-hour visit. I've been doing that for ten years. [unintelligible: last 3yrs. Is because of the nedyounoes.she made I court. "The last three years are because of the negotiations she made in court"?] She does not let me in their lives. She did not have a dad, and her mom walked out on her dad and raised the kids herself. The mom let them do whatever they wanted, anything. She [his children's mother] is doing it now with me and the kids. She knows by the time court comes that what was done will stand and knows she will not get into trouble. Now she plans to take the kids to Colorado soon. How do I stop her? Just because of the temporary order, she thinks she can take the kids whenever and wherever she wants. I have to stop her. Every time, the court sides with her. She can say anything and they believe her, I think because she said we have never lived together, have never married, are not boyfriend-girlfriend and are 19 and younger. Can anyone help? I could use it! Someday when you need help, I will help you. Thank you.

[alecjean]

Sorry . That happens after talking to michelle.the kids mom. Things were good.3 month pg. With george I could not come to see emily.when george turn 3 months old. Then off &on for 6 yers when she said to come , not come. From the frist time I saw emily. I gave 200.a week +by things babbys need.
I filed.child suport/visitation.not her. I had to go there.thats were they live.one week before emily came she moved there. The first time in court she had a lower. Frist thing the ask were my lower was.I did nothing wrong.I do not need one.from there on.the judge took michelle side.I was put whrough the ringer.the next time with a lower not much better.what michelle and lower said she believe.the things I had to do.the money for child suport. Michelle got hafe of my pay. 1200. From 2400. After 3 years of bul **** .michell not keeping her part and taking my time with the kids not given any back.I want to change.being on ssdi and being disabled.I could get it move to fresno ca.
Now I need to stop michelle from removing the kids from ca. After to day .I might not get to see my kids. You would think after 11 yesrs michelle would back off.let me be.be glad they have a dad who
Cairs.& puts up with michelle.her oldes son dad quit coming around after one week of shti. From her. Did I say .I had no say in names did not see briths.no birthdays, no holidays.no vacitons.
When she needs money ore things for the kids I am there. I hope you can make heads from tales
Now.
I do not have much money after bills.gas /food/miss. No money left.

[Wondergirl]

We want to help you, but it's still very difficult to understand your post. Was my interpretation for the first one not good?

[JudyKayTee]

WG translated a lot better than I could.

[JudyKayTee]

sorry . That happens after talking to michelle.the kids mom. Things were good.3 month pg. With george I could not come to see emily.when george turn 3 months old. Then off &on for 6 yers when she said to come , not come. From the frist time I saw emily. I gave 200.a week +by things babbys need.
I filed.child suport/visitation.not her. I had to go there.thats were they live.one week befor emily came she moved there. The first time in court she had a lower. Frist thing the ask were my lower was.i did nothing wrong.i do not need one.from there on.the judge took michelle side.i was put whrough the ringer.the nex time with a lower not much better.what michelle and lower said she belive.the things I had to do.the money for child suport. Michelle got hafe of my pay. 1200. From 2400. After 3 years of bul **** .michell not keeping her part and taking my time with the kids not given any back.i want to change.being on ssdi and being disabled.i could get it move to fresno ca.
now I need to stop michelle from removing the kids from ca. After to day .i might not get to see my kids. You would think after 11 yesrs michelle would back off.let me be.be glad they have a dad who
cairs.& puts up with michelle.her oldes son dad quit coming around after one week of shti. From her. Did I say .i had no say in names did not see briths.no birthdays, no holidays.no vacitons.
when she needs money ore things for the kids I am there. I hope you can make heads from tales
now.
I do not have much money after bills.gas /food/miss. No money left.

Here's my interpretation. Name of mother of children is Michelle. Person posting (OP) has 2 children by Michelle - Emily is older, George is younger. They broke up when Michelle was 3 months pregnant with Emily. When he visited to see George he was not allowed to see Emily. The first time he actually saw Emily he starting giving Michelle $200/week for child support.

OP filed for visitation - in my State he couldn't file for support because he didn't have custody (but that's another issue). He could, of course, file for visitation/custody.

Michelle moved 1 week before Emily was born and that new residence had jurisdiction (that's where the hearing was held). At least 2 Court hearings did not go well for OP. He was ordered to pay Michelle (for support) half of his earnings. Michelle lives at some distance from him now due to that move.

OP is now disabled and needs to lower his child support because his income has changed. Michelle is threatening to leave the area with the children and he wants to stop here, well aware that she moved once before. He can barely afford to feed himself. He definitely cannot afford to travel to see his children.

OP has had no input in children's lives - doesn't see them on birthdays, holidays, etc. Michelle blocks his every attempt.

OP is in a severe financial crisis and wants to know what to do next.

IF I am correct - what does the support order say about Michelle moving? In most jurisdictions she has to get the permission of the Court. Has she made an application?

ALSO IF I am right, you will HAVE to pay the full amount of support (whether or not you have the money) until you get a Court Order changing the amount.

I agree that you are making every attempt to be a responsible, caring parent and Michelle is blocking your every move. You need to get a Court Order bringing her to her senses.

Does that answer at least part of your question? Let me know and we'll all come back with some good, sound advice.

In the meantime, take a deep breath and let us know if we've got it at least partially correct.

[alecjean]

If I understan.I haf to stay with san mateo courts. Can the get help here in fresno family services.then file in san mateo.
What are the steps to stop michelle?
Michelle mom,emily frist george 2 years apart.
Frist court .michelle stated.we never married,never lived togeather,not boy_girl friend do you think.becouse of that and women judg.is why I got what I did. The judge
Did what .michelle lower not the meator. This time I would like to better my odds.no how to. ( I feel like asperm doner with visitation) and I pay to do it.

[JudyKayTee]

Until and unless you tell us if any of us have your story right we cannot help you.

Not being married and having a female Judge is NOT why you "got what you got."

If you want to pay less support go back to the Court where the original order was issued and petition for a change.

[cdad]

If I understan.I haf to stay with san mateo courts. Can the get help here in fresno family services.then file in san mateo.
What are the steps to stop michelle?
Michelle mom,emily frist george 2 years apart.
Frist court .michelle stated.we never married,never lived togeather,not boy_girl friend do you think.becouse of that and women judg.is why I got what I did. The judge
Did what .michelle lower not the meator. This time I would like to better my odds.no how to. ( I feel like asperm doner with visitation) and I pay to do it.

If I understand correctly, I have to stay in San Mateo Courts. Is it possible to get help through Fresno Family Services for my case in San Mateo?

What steps do I need to take to stop the mother from moving?


This time I would like to better my odds in court as it seems my rights are disappearing. What can I do to prevent the move?

[cdad]

If I understand correctly, I have to stay in San Mateo Courts. Is it possible to get help through Fresno Family Services for my case in San Mateo?

What steps do I need to take to stop the mother from moving?


This time I would like to better my odds in court as it seems my rights are disappearing. What can I do to prevent the move?

You can try to seek help in Fresno but they usually are booked for their area only. You best bet is to go through the family law facilitators office in san mateo. They will help you and send you the needed paperwork as well as give you instructions.

You can apply to appear by "telephonic means" (by telephone) when your case is being heard.

As far as stopping the move it doesn't sound likely. But what you can do is modify custody so you have the child for longer periods. And ask the courts for the mother to pay the travel expenses as she is the one doing the move. You can ask for all summer and alternating holidays.

If you don't currently have overnights then don't bite off more then you can chew. Only ask for reasonable visitation. You are the one that determines reasonable. Also with overnights it will affect your chid support and may reduce your payments.