[pantera5]

Ok guys, here's my story. I met this girl in college, we were friends while I knew she was in a relationship with another guy and things in their relationship were not good. After she broke up with him, I made a move after a while telling my feelings and kissed her which she accepted.

Afterward she said she's not feeling OK with this situation and I shouldn't have any hopes with her although she likes me she told and she likes that I respect her and that I make her feel unique. We still hanged out for couple months and the story was all over again which I mean we kissed many times but afterward she was changing her mind and told me that she doesn't want any relationship at the moment and I should look for an other girl so I would get over her but she wants to stay friends.

In my opinion over the time we passed I made some mistakes with her like pressure her sometimes to move on or show jealously when other guys talked to her and even being there available for her when needed which I know is totally wrong but I couldn't do otherwise since I had these strong feelings for her.

After couple weeks we were suppose to hang out, and then she canceled it and told me that she was with her ex. Then I decided to tell my feelings for her again and then I told her I spent too much time and gave too much attention on you which I haven't regret it ever but since you show no interest its time for me to move on and get over you.

And her answer was I'm glad that you decided this and told me we'll talk tomorrow. I really believe that this girl is into me but after some time I've noticed that the reasons that she doesn't move on with me are : 1) she's not over her ex 2) I'm not the guy that she's looking for 3) she wants to be alone.. well I don't know how to react in the future time and any advise guys?

[talaniman]

And her answer was I'm glad that you decided this and told me we'll talk tomorrow

She thinks you have realized you have no chance for romance, just friends, and will be a friend and not want more. Its clear you won't get more.

I really believe that this girl is into me but after some time

As a friend, kisses mean nothing.

I've noticed that the reasons that she doesn't move on with me are : 1) she's not over her ex 2) I'm not the guy that she's looking for 3) she wants to be alone

You clearly broke the first rule of healthy, mature, relationships, you jumped on a female who just dumped an ex. Never, ever do that, not ever.

Its really easy, no matter what problems the old relationship has, there is still history, and unresolved feelings, and attachments that have to be dealt with. There has to be a healing process, a recovery and acceptance that things are over and she must move on, not rebound as you were willing to accept, but actually being ready with no baggage from the past following her around to the next guy.

What you saw as an opportunity, was merely a cool off period for them both to let the dust settle between them. You may of helped her along during this time, but now she is ready to deal with it. Especially if the ex caught wind of her spending time with YOU. He wanted his stuff back.

well I don't know how to react in the future time and any advise guys?

If you cannot just be a friend, with no motives of getting more, then leave her alone and go back to your own life.

[sunbeamrunner]

You have kind of answered your own question. She see's you as a friend. She does like you clearly but not enough to form a relationship with you. You were there when she needed someone and as awful as it may sound she may have been using you to some extent to make her feel better about herself after breaking up with her boyfriend.

You have to accept that dhe does not want a relationship with you. Holding out hoping is not healthy and will get you no where fast. Make the decision now as to whether you feel you can be just friends with her. If you thin you would accept that offer in the lingering hopes that she may change her mind then you need to leave her well alone.

You deserve someone who appreciates you and the time and affection you would devote to them. Get back to your own life, and who knows down the line she may want you, but if she doesn't, you will find someone else.

[Rhyme4NoReason]

You already know that she doesn't like you that way other than friendship. Advice? Drop her all together. You're going to end up hating her or hating yourself if you continue to see her.

This will not end up well. Go do your own thing, and find someone that treats you with the respect
That you deserve.