[anotherday210]

Almost everyday I find evidence in random places around the apartment, that my boyfriend and I share, that he has been masturbating. I am sure he does it all the time. However, we rarely have sex. Maybe once a month. Is this normal? I mean, we're both in our early twenties and have been together for 2 years so I wouldn't think things should be slowing down so much already. He's always told me that he's not a very sexually active person, but it seems to me that he is, just not with me around. I've always been a very sexual person, so this is so frustrating to me because I would much rather have sex than masturbate. Any thoughts?

[Kahani Punjab]

Anotherday210

First remember, it is normal. But, your misgiving is also genuine, esp. when, as you say, are very sexy towards him, and in such a case, he should satiate his sexual urge with you and not by hand practice, or masturbation. Both the acts are for sexual gratification, but still, while some people are so much used to masturbation, that they get excitement and fulfilment from M-act only, or more. This differs from person to person, but if you let yourself try with his penis, move it, talk about it, about pubes, and let him move his hand into yours, the things can change for better, at least in your mind, I suppose. Tell me if it helps.

Ask him, how he wants you to look. Wear the garments he likes on you. Get a new haircut as per his wish, or give him a beautiful surprise, but do not forge to take advice from a hairstylist. Give him a big hug, and while doing so, touch him there... I hope you got it.

Good luck!