[Kate007]

Hi, I was dating with a guy (no yet physical contact) about 3 times. Everything was fine, but I had serious problems with my family and I was very stressed and depressive, so I sent him so much text messages. After our last date and first kiss, we did agree to catch up again, but for different reasons we couldn?t do it during 3 weeks. Then, I felt frustrated and I sent a SMS to him telling I no was sure if he was really interested and maybe was better catch up when he have time and he really want to do it.

He felt I was pushing him and he told me "it is better be just friends" and I did take it wrong and answer "it is better don?t see each other if we don?t think the same?" but because I was feeling very sad and confuse with my family problems.

Then the same day I did say sorry and I would like keep friendship with him, he didn't answer, then the next day I sent another message to him asking for catch up this day as we agrred the first time (he didn't answer), then later I sent another sms asking "please at least don't be angry" and he answer very rude to me asking me stop with the messages.

I know I did very wrong it, I felt so bad for it and after 2 weeks I did ask him for catch up, he thanks to me for the invite but he couldn?t for X reason?next week I sent a new text to him explaining what happened and why I did that sort of things?he told me he is no looking for a serious relationship and I replayed I was in the same way?but he didn't?t send me any message since more than one week after that?

I really like this guy and I feel so bad for my mistake, I would like to know if he will contact me again or what I can do for that? Any advice?

[sewslikethewind]

This is really tough.

There is nothing you can "do". Anything you do will be perceived as more of what pushed him away, which was too much "doing". If you see him, say hello, keep it brief and be the first one to end the conversation - demonstrating that you are not a needy-feed-me-cling-on!

If you don't typically see him after a reasonable amount of time (at least 3 months -- REALLY!), you could arrange to bump into him. But again, keep it brief, let him know you are doing great, invite him to call you, then leave. Then under no circumstances contact him -- no matter what. Even if you think he's lost your number.

[Kahani Punjab]

Sewslikethewind has exactly hit the nail on the head.

Love is dual process. If you show him become possessive, he will become haughty. He needs you as much as you need him, this is for you to remember. And, if he likes you today, he will return, and GOOD, but if he does not, remember, he is not the stuff for you, as if he can bunk you initially, what guarantees his long-lasting friendship, if you are interested in one, and I only presume, even as you have not given a hint. Usually, girls want LLF, you know better.

Do not repent, as what you did was what you best could do, under the circumstances, you were in, and moreover, you told him everything in black and white, why you said so, and now this is the most, you could do, so why to repent, if you did not do any wrong, intentionally.

Yes, let the time pass, before you CONTACT him, once, only for your own satisfaction. Or, lets see, what transpires, now and then?

Good luck!
PS - If he goes, there are many better in line to come and say hey Kate... wanna frenship with me... plz befren me... plz... This will happen. Just curl your hair, or perm it, or bob it, just change your hairstyle, your look and your behaviour and you will tempt many. But choose with wisedom. Good luck again!