[daisy8587]

I like this guy but have been wary for around a year as I got very hurt in my previous relationship 4 years ago so I guess I'm figuring out if I want to open up again to a potential relationship. This guy has been asking me out for so long, I've known him since school, but don't know him if you get me as that was along time ago, I'm 24 now.

I went out with him around 5 weeks ago, and we ended up having lots of wine and back to his, it ended in sex. Which I don't think we both remember a lot of. I didn't think I'd hear from him again after, but I did, and have done. I do wish we had built up the foundations of the friendship part before hand but I can't change that now. I think I worry he just wants a casual sex relationship but I don't, I'm wanting more with him, or if I meet someone else. I really find him attractive in lots of ways and when I'm with him I do feel real happy, it flows nicely.

I have seen him twice since the wine night because of us both going on holidays and with work busy, so there's been no consistency in moving forward and seeing each other, I feel confused, I spoke to him on the phone earlier and he asks if I've missed him, thought about him today and what I thought about, I don't get this, is he being playful, testing me or wanting compliments, I'm wary but playful with my answer back as I don't want to be overly keen in case he just ups and can't be bothered, is he trying to work me out to, he talks about sex with me lots too and I don't know if this means its all he wants, he bluntly just comes out with, lets have sex Friday, but yet he's been wanting us to meet up for ages etc.

I feel we could have something good, do I just need to relax and let it happen. Please please help!

[ineedhelplease]

Follow your heart. If you already get along so well, don't let the past hold you back from a future. Loves about taking chances. Least that's my take on it.

[Fr_Chuck]

And talk, and did I mention talk and then talk some more. Spend more time talking and less getting drunk where you don't remember what was being said.

You will know what he means if you talk to him and ask him.

[daisy8587]

Thanks, its harder said than done, I told him its better to be just friends. That way no one ever gets hurt.
I don't usually drink a lot so the night we did I didn't handle it to well! Thank you guys

[talaniman]

I don't believe in dancing around in limbo. Why assume when you can ask?

"Is sex all you want?"!! People who can't honestly express themselves should be dating or in a relationship. Or drinking.

[dangerousDIVA]

Honestly I think u should straight up ask him. See what he says and state exactly how you feel about what happened between you two and what you may or may not want.