Ask Experts Questions for FREE Help !
Ask
    Sixofus's Avatar
    Sixofus Posts: 1, Reputation: 1
    New Member
     
    #1

    Sep 12, 2011, 06:20 AM
    Fighting over parenting ashes?
    My Mother(81yrs) passed away 4 yrs ago and her Ashes stayed at home with my Father and I, now my Father(91yrs) has passed away 8 weeks ago, I have his Ashes too. My siblings now want to take the ashes to a cemetery, but my Father asked me to keep his Ashes with Mothers together in his home for as long as I live, I promied him that I would as he has left me the house and all its belongings to me for as long as I live, and then everything can be divided between the living siblings that are left. My siblings are also contesting my Fahers Will and at the moment I am having trouble dealing with my Fathers Death and living in limbo land not knowing the outcome. I have lived with my Father for 5 yrs looked after both parents with very little to no help from the other siblings( 3 sisters 2 brothers) only 1 brother has supported me all the way through and is also the executor of the Will. I gave up 2 jobs and sold my home to look after my parents, my siblings asked me to move down to look after our parents and now they have turned on me. My Fathers Will hadn't even been officially read when 4 siblings already went to see a solicitor to contest the Will, not 1 of them came over to see how I was coping or ask my brother the executor about what was happening about my Fahers Will, we only found out that they had all been to see a solitor recently. My main concern is that I don't want to give up my parents Ashes and keep my promise to my Father. Can they make me give up the Ashes? I also paid for my Fathers Funeral on my own and finacially I am struggling, but will fight to the end, my parents will be looking down on us all and I am sure they would both be in tears to see what's happening. Does anyone have any good advic Please?
    ebaines's Avatar
    ebaines Posts: 12,131, Reputation: 1307
    Expert
     
    #2

    Sep 12, 2011, 07:27 AM
    Sixofus - what jurisdiction is this in? Since you use the term "solicitor" I'm guessing the UK - correct?

    I can't speak to UK law, but in general if your father's will says nothing about what to do with his remains it would be up to the executor of his estate to determine what happens to the ashes. Also, you shouldn't have had to pay the funeral expenses yourself - the executor should have paid for it out of the estate's assets.

    If your siblings are to contest the will they're going to have to show that it is either illegally drawn up of your father was mentally incompetent when he signed it. The executor will be responsible for defending the estate's interest - which means fighting any suit brought by the other siblings.

Not your question? Ask your question View similar questions

 

Question Tools Search this Question
Search this Question:

Advanced Search

Add your answer here.


Check out some similar questions!

Who has a legal right over ashes [ 3 Answers ]

I know this sound stupid and but all my sister and I want to bury our sister her boyfrind has the ashes and redused to give them back they were not married and have no kids all we want to do is bury her with our parnets who also all passed away in 2010

Legal right to ashes [ 4 Answers ]

My sister passed away yesterday and I wondered who has the legal right to her ashes. She has a husband, but was very troubled and we feel he contributed to her overdose suicide death. Is there any time when the mother is given the ashes instead? Thank you

Grappling fighting or any ground fighting! [ 0 Answers ]

Has anybody trained in grappling that have a denture & a partial? How were you able to go through training w/out them falling out? Did you get advice from your dentist or common sense situation? Any law enforcement or fighting instructors with advice for their cadets or students with this...

My brothers ashes [ 2 Answers ]

My brother died 7/07. His wish was to be buried with our parents and had set aside funds to take care of this task. My brother had medical issues and was alone except for a close friend he had confided in. He left no will and upon his death, his son was left to make the decisions. My brother and...

Father's Ashes ! [ 1 Answers ]

I am a Minor, I am 15 years of age. My father passed away on July 3rd, 2003. My father, was cremated and my grandmother (his mother) has them. I supposed their must be some type of law for a mans own children to have a part of him, he is the man who raised me and my 19 year old brother. Please help...


View more questions Search