[Landon13]

Okay, I have a best friend, she's always been there for me, and no matter what rumors say I've always been believed by her. We agreed to date, once after a week of dating she suddenly cut it off telling me "I don't know what I want, I'm confused, and I'm going to stay single for a while.".

Two days later, I was at the mall, and I saw her, and my friend, snuggling, and kissing. To tell you the truth I liked her, not IN LOVE, but I was pretty jealous. She did kind of lie to me. She could've told me she like someone else, but she chose to spare my feelings.

After a year of them breaking up, and getting back together 3 time (me being her best friend throughout the entire relationship) she finally broke it off. He previously moved, and distance and fighting played a big part in there break up. Her and me got close, she was lonely, and I wanted to be there for her.

After a while I discovered me and her had a lot in common. And I fell in love, I cared for her and she believed me. We didn't date, but she said she liked me, and wanted to give me a chance. We went out on 3 dates, nothing much, just hanging out, and eating together. She was also dating some over guy. She was holding hands with him, and she says he made a move for her hand, and I never made a move. But the twist is I'm her best friend, and she just met other guy, so she wants me more, but she's confusing.

Other girls are easy to read, and I know when to make a move, but she's different, and I don't know if I kiss her she will get pissed or not. The kiss to her, seals the relationship. But now her ex boyfriend, is still in some other state, and a guy just moved her, and looks almost like him, and him and her are getting close. He doesn't care, but she's starting to like him just because he looks like her ex, and its bringing back memories.

If I don't make a move fast I'll lose her. And I'm tired of her getting hurt, and I don't want her to date a ****, which its heading that way. How do I make this move, I have a few days before a date, and I plan on kissing her then. But I need to make it right. I need advice help.



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[Alty]

I have to ask your age. Sounds like 15, maybe younger?

The fact is, she cut you off the first time you dated. Now she's alone, and she's lonely, and you're her friend, and safe.

From what you've said in your post I would have to say that she's not interested in you. You're her safety net. You're her best friend. She's dating the other guy not only because he looks like her ex, but because she has romantic feeling for him. I don't think she has those feelings for you, but she doesn't know how to tell you that.

You're her comfort.

That's how I see it.

[Alty]

Landon13 does not find this helpful : I'm 17, and she keeps saying she likes me. I tell her to tell the truth she says the same thing and she says she doesn't like other guy she's dationg. And guy who looks like ex she has a connection, and memories toward him, but I can tell she doesn't lik

Landon, there are rules on this site. Rules you agreed to when you joined.

One of those rules is that unhelpful ratings can only be given for factually incorrect information. In other words, if I said that the sky is red, when in fact it's blue, you could give me a bad rating. You can't give me a negative rating for my opinion, and that's what my post is.

So, since you can't follow the rules, and gave me a negative just because you don't like my opinion, you can figure this all out on your own, because I'm done. I don't help people that have no desire to listen.

Good bye, and good luck.

[slapshot_oi]

The kiss to her, seals the relationship.

Don't kid yourself, a kiss isn't going to seal anything. She already lied to you once, in which she told you she wanted to be single, but then you see her a couple days later at the mall with your buddy. You'd do well to take whatever she tells you in regard to your romantic involvement with her with a grain of salt.

Here's why you cannot date her: you are in the friendzone. She has no romantic attraction for you because she sees you like her brother.

If you kiss her, it will be awkward. I recommend abandoning the idea of dating her altogether.

[Alty]

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I totally agree.

Slappy, be prepared for a reddie. This kid doesn't want the truth.

[talaniman]

When a female is single, she can kiss whomever she wants right? None of your business though. I strongly advise you to step back and see her in a different light because its your feelings for her that blind you to the simple fact, she needs someone to keep her from being lonely, even if its you. But she will lie for whatever reason. And she doesn't mind at all if you do the work, as long she gets the benefit of company, or a make out buddy, and she knows she has many options.

So just kiss her, and see what happens, and quit being afraid of finding out the truth for yourself. Yeah you love her, just because she is your only focus, and the feelings are intense (hormones get to raging at 17), so go for it and see what happens. Hope for the best, but prepare yourself for the worst, as it didn't work so well before, without YOU sealing the deal.

[Alty]

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OMG! How stingy am I with greenies?

I have to go spread the rep, but well said Tal. :)

[Cat1864]

I am going to be harsh.

Stop thinking with your hormones and start thinking with your head.

If you are 17, how old is she?

This female is confused and it is making her Trouble with a capital 'T'. She needs to be alone for awhile to get her head out of whatever fog she has it in and learn what she wants instead of chasing anything in pants. She is playing games and no one is going to win.

If she is seeing the new guy, then she is off-limits. Doesn't matter if she likes him or not. That is her problem stop making it yours. You can't play knight-in-shining-armor and save her from herself. She has to make her own mistakes and learn from them. So far all she has learned is you will be there to fall back on when she jumps off this horse and be her mounting block for the next one.

Learn from your own mistakes. Step back her and look around you. There are available females everywhere who won't dump you then go out with your buddy or make puppy eyes at you while she plays physical contact games with someone she claims not to like. What do you think she tells him as she holds his hand and bats her eyes at him?

Time to learn what you want in a relationship. Do you want a girlfriend who will run-off with the next best thing? Do you want a girlfriend who goes out with males she says she doesn't like? Do you want a girlfriend who you can't really trust where stand with because she could be telling someone else that she doesn't know if she likes you and why don't they go out so she can find out?

Do you want a girlfriend who wants to be with you? If she has male friends, they are just friends and not potential boyfriends waiting in the wings. Think about it.

[Alty]

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Bravo!

I couldn't agree more, even though I can't agree because I have to spread the rep.

What's with that anyway? Three in a row? I'm not that stingy with greenies, am I?