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whit17 · Aug 26, 2011, 08:59 AM

So my best friend likes this guy a lot and I want to hook her up with him but I'm not sure where to begin. She talks about him all the time and obsesses over the little things he does that she thinks are cute, even though he has a girlfriend. I think he right like her a little bit to be honest but I need help on the whole nonchalant recommendation part without being straight up and obvious.

Cat1864 · Aug 26, 2011, 09:20 AM

To be blunt: You don't. He has a girlfriend.

Longer answer: You don't want to set your friend up with a male who would cheat on his girlfriend or dump the current one the moment a better prospect came along. If he will do it to her, he will do it to your friend. Guess who will get the blame should that happen? It probably won't be him.

Fr_Chuck · Aug 26, 2011, 09:26 AM

Agree you don't for many reasons, It sounds like you are not best friends with this person either, if she wants to be the "other women" wants a man who would gladly cheat on his girlfriend, she needs to go and talk to him

Assuming this is not 7th grade, she can ask him out if she wants to go out with him

talaniman · Aug 26, 2011, 12:04 PM

What kind of friend tries to set a friend up with someone that's taken?? Not a very good one! Instead you should remind her he has a girl friend, and stay out of this.

whit17 · Sep 10, 2011, 07:26 AM

Well he likes her though. I don't know what to do, because although I don't want to break him and his girlfriend up, marissa is like all emo so to speak because she is totally in love with this kid and either he is leading her on or they were totally talking dirty on Facebook the other night. I hate seeing her upset. Why she is making such a big deal of it bewilders me, but I wish that I could do something for her that wouldn't screw anything up. It is quite difficult, but then again I'm not exactly a love guru.

odinn7 · Sep 10, 2011, 07:36 AM

On top of the already excellent advice that you got from the previous posters, I have to add that you shouldn't even get involved. If you managed to get them together and then something goes wrong (like he cheats on her or they break up or whatever) she will likely blame you.

So really... a friend doesn't want to set up a friend with someone who is already taken... that's the biggest problem. Next you have what I said... then I still have to wonder about something? Why are you even concerned about this? You claim they were talking dirty on FB... so they talk? Let her deal with it.

talaniman · Sep 10, 2011, 08:12 AM

Sometimes you have to let your friends pay the consequences of their own actions, if they want to walk down a wrong path. All you can do is warn them, and support them when they fail.

Because they are making a mistake, doesn't mean you have to help them, or follow them when you know it's a mistake.

whit17 · Sep 10, 2011, 08:19 AM

Thanks guys!:) I actually have kind of given up on this one because she is talking about a million other guys now, plus, she is trying to get me and my boyfriend to do stuff. Which is kind of irritating, but we just ignore her when she does it. Then he will kiss me when she is not looking just to make her mad. Not that that has anything to do with my question though. Thanks again for the advice!