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Bas2001123 · Aug 24, 2011, 11:59 PM

I'm in love this guy and he was in love with me to but we spent months talking and we were going to go out but the other day he texted me I don't want a relationship just to be friends :( but I still love him and want to be with him what do I do

deletexox · Aug 25, 2011, 01:08 PM

As much as we wish we could do something when we are in a situation like this, we can't.

The only thing you can do is give him what he wants. It is impossible to force feelings towards someone.
What you can do is ask to speak to him about it. Other than that, there's not much else to help your situation with him. BUT there are things you can do to help YOU.

Take time for yourself. If you're having trouble getting over him, or anyone for that matter (even if it's only two months), the best remedy is to put yourself intentionally out of your comfort zone. Do things you normally wouldn't do, keep yourself occupied. When you're down about a guy, you may want to sit at home and do nothing... DON'T. Go out, force yourself to hangout with friends that really care for you and understand what you may be feeling.

Rest assured, if no drama happened, then you most likely did nothing to make him not want to be with you. There is no reason for someone falling out of love or no longer sharing interest in a person. It just happens out of no cause. Neither parties have any say over it.

Good luck and feel better!

talaniman · Aug 25, 2011, 03:57 PM

Is this an online or social network relationship? Is it long distance? How do you love someone you have never been out with?

I don't understand, please explain.

agh1990 · Aug 29, 2011, 10:17 AM

I think you need to accept his decision, as you can't force someone into loving you. However, if you still love him then trying to be friends straight away isn't going to work, as you'll still have feelings for him that he won't have for you anymore and that will be hard. You need to try move on and, if after a few weeks you're over him, maybe then you can be friends.

Alty · Aug 29, 2011, 10:58 AM

Sadly we can't make people love us. He no longer wants the relationship, so there's nothing you can do to force him to love you back. It's simply not possible.

The only thing you can do is accept that it's over, realize that you can't make him love you, and find a way to move on with your life.

Fr_Chuck · Aug 29, 2011, 11:02 AM

So stay friends, but understand he may have ( and we are just guessing) he may have been talking to other girls also. And has decided to date one of them instead.

I will disagree that you can not "love" him, you may like him and you may be even sexually interested in him. But if you want to keep being friends, knowing you are very likely going to be hurt, you have that choice.