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sheej · Aug 11, 2011, 02:50 AM

I am 23 years old have a girlfriend. My girlfriend and I have the great urge to sex that's after when when don't have work. After she had work. She is telling me that she wants to have sex with me but She don't so now I am suffering of sexual addiction to her. I am really on to her. I love her and I don't want to cheat with her. Can anyone help me please?

sheej · Aug 11, 2011, 03:00 AM

That's when she doesn't have work but right after she have a work. I kind of feel like she doesn't have the urge to have sex with me anymore. I am thinking that she has another man. Or she has flirted with another man. Every time I think of that thing many things would come up to my mind thinking that she has done sex with other man. Or feel like she doesn't have the urge to have sex with me cause she is done doing it with other man. I really love her. And I don't want our relationship to end. How can I control this urge to having sex with her and how can I control this imagination I have when I think that she has another man?

Cat1864 · Aug 11, 2011, 07:55 AM

How you control your 'urges' is to understand that you are responsible for your actions. No one can make you cheat. You can give yourself other things to do and think about than sex.

Masturbation can be a way to relieve some of the pressure if it is permissible in your belief system (Since I know of very few religions or cultures that are okay with pre-marital sex, religious or cultural prohibitions may not be a concern.)

Reading, exercise, hobbies, gardening, etc. can be great distractions. If you are busy, you will have less time to focus on your sexual needs and they won't be as frustrating.

Are you saying that when she is on vacation or her days off, she is more open to having sex and on days when she is working, she doesn't want sex? She may be tired or stressed after working. Many people don't feel like being active in bed after a long day of work. It does not mean she is having an affair. Only that she has other needs than to have sex all the time. She isn't a robot that can switch from one function to another at the push of a button.

Do you work or go to school? Do you sit around all day waiting for her to get off work so that you can get off? Do you tell her that you think she is cheating because she doesn't want sex when you think she should? If so, how does she respond to those accusations?