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bluedabadee · Aug 3, 2011, 05:04 AM

My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. When we first met he made some effort to pursue me and actually wanted to makeout all the time ( kissing) and wanted to see me a lot. But after dating for 3 months and him lying where he lived and finally showed me (lives with parents late 30's) things went downhill from there. I think he just got way to comfortable. Now he makes me drive to him, won't see me more than 2 times a week. Never wants to kiss me or hold my hand or anything. He says he has to be in the mood to kiss which is never. I have to ask for a kiss and then it's a peck on the lips. I've done everything possible for him to want me more. His family loves me but he says he only cares for me and likes me a lot ( after a year of dating).
I do believe I'm good looking and that I'm a smart girl ( maybe not for letting the relationship go so far)
He is a nice guy and I feel comfortable with him and to be honest I'm scared to be single and its really hard to find someone nice and you feel comfortable with. But I'm also torn apart of my feelings. Im a very affectionate person and to be with someone who won't show any affection is really hard. I really wanted this to work but like all my friends say I'm waisting my time and that if he doesn't love me now he will never love me.
Is there anything more I can do to make him want me or show some affection anything?? Im in my 20's and almost done with my MBA, I work hard and when it comes to him ill do absolutely anything for him. He on thhe other hand has no education would rather stay at home and play xbox and sleep... lives at home works for himself but has a great heart and is a nice guy. Any advice is welcome and thanks in advance.

phillysteakandcheese · Aug 3, 2011, 09:17 AM

You seem to be saying that he doesn't fulfill any of your needs, except as a label so you can say you are not alone.

Even though he has a great heart and acts nice when you see him twice a week, I think you already know that he's not a good match for you, and that it's your fear of being alone that's motivating you to "do absolutely anything for him".

I agree with your friends - What you are looking for just isn't in this guy.

amicon · Aug 3, 2011, 09:23 AM

After three months the lust has worn off and he's showing his true colours-and waving a number of red flags-time to walk away-at best you are not a good match-at the worst you'll spend more time in a relationship that's a no starter.

bluedabadee · Aug 3, 2011, 10:47 AM

Thanks, I just wish it was easy to walk away.

amicon · Aug 3, 2011, 11:44 AM

It's most often not easy-but you make a choice-taking into consideration your own wellbeing.

talaniman · Aug 3, 2011, 02:46 PM

Stop catering to his needs and you won't have to walk away, he will dump you.

He doesn't sound so nice to me, and sure doesn't do anything for you.

bluedabadee · Aug 3, 2011, 02:50 PM

That's so funny. But true. Its easier to get over someone when they break up with you. Thanks for making me smile.