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Miss2386 · Jul 30, 2011, 07:30 PM

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year now. In the beginning eveything was fine. I really wasn't looking for a relationship at the time because I had just got out of an relationship 5 months before we started talking. He used to try to talk to me all the time but I never gave him a chance until I decide to talk to him and liked the conversation.

He is older than I am I'm 23 and he's 31 so I felt that he was more mature and I felt like he could teach me a lot since he's more experience. Anyway as the months went by we didn't have our first serious argument until around our 9 months together.

He starts having financial problems and we would argue and he would say things to me like he sacrificed his business and friendship for me and I haven't sacrificed anything for him. Which I didn't ask for any of that he did that because the friend that he ran the business with was a female he use to deal with before me and once him and I started dating she didn't want me there with him at all.

I explained to him about how I didn't like the situation because he didn't want me there at first either because he felt that it was going to be some problems between his ex and I. So he decided to let her go and run the business with a guy friend of his. Certain people were telling him that he made a big mistake because she was a good asset to the business and that he doesn't know what he's getting himself into.

A couple of months pass and his friend and him get into it so they are no longer friends. Then the people were telling him I told you so. I guess he felt like now that I was the cause of all of this, but I keep telling him you can help who you fall in love with and I think the people didn't like that. Which I didn't care about what the people said I was more so concerned about our relationship because it was like after all of that everything just started going downhill.

He's now out of work and expects me to be there for him 100 percent. Don't get me wrong I am there for him I make sure he has what he needs I cook and make sure he eats everyday but I alo have a child I have to be there for as well. He gets mad with me when I start to slack in doing certain things for him because I'm tired and its like he doesn't understand when I explain to him that I have had a hard day or I was sleep and forgot to do something because I was tired and fell asleep. He says I don't respect his feelings but when I express my feelings he say I'm just saying stuff to make it seem like I'm always right. He says that I need to grow up and I'm to the point where I don't know what to do.

Just because he s older he say things to really make me think like I don't know what I'm talking about or what I'm doing is wrong. When I know deep down I'm not crazy. Please help!

talaniman · Jul 30, 2011, 07:45 PM

Dump the darn fool if he is not making you happy, and treats you with disrespect. Not your fault he is a lousy business man. While we sympathize when people fall on hard times, we don't have to accept bad behavior.

Unless you are but his slave, then you should shut up, and do as your master commands.

So what are you??

amicon · Jul 30, 2011, 11:36 PM

Dump the jerk and leave him to grow up -and start walking uphill again-on your own.

I wish · Jul 31, 2011, 05:43 AM

Both of you need to get your lives together and not blame each other for your problems. You are both adults so you should be taking care of yourselves first before worrying about another person.

At 31, he should be mature enough to take responsibility for the consequences of his life, so he doesn't sound very mature from the facts that you've given us.

If you can't find ways to support each other and to lean on each other for strength when times are tough, then this does not bold well for the future.

It may be best for you to go your separate ways if you don't have any progress with your problems because it sounds more like you're dragging each other down.

Cat1864 · Jul 31, 2011, 07:05 AM

What is he doing for himself? You aren't helping him if you are doing everything for him. Enabling him to push his responsibility off on everyone else especially you is a very bad example to set for your child. He made poor decisions allow him to fix the mistakes like an adult should.

How were you involved in his business? Why did you allow yourself to be drawn into his drama? It sounds like there was trouble brewing before you ever got involved.

Back off. Handle your own life and issues. Make him handle his own by not doing it for him. At 31, he should know how to change a channel, fill out paperwork, fix a meal, etc. If not, then he can learn. His parents already raised him. You shouldn't have to do the job again.

By the way, he may be physically 31, but he is acting like a two year old. Distance yourself from it until he stops pouting, throwing tantrums, and starts acting his age. Do you really want to raise two children?

BK201 · Jul 31, 2011, 09:05 AM

He is just pushing all his faults and failures onto your head. So, he keeps doing all these things knowing that you won't leave him no matter what he does, or he is doing all these so that you would leave him. You would have to break that idea of his, tell him clearly that its on the verge of a break. Make him shut up and sit down and listen to you without interrupting. If he fails to comply, get rid of him. After all, you are not his pet to listen whatever he says, or a robo to keep cooking and cooking all day.