[Shockwave9]

I've been getting on REALLY well with this girl, she is exactly my type in every aspect - she always has a lot of guys round her...

This weekend we spent quite a lot of time in bars and back at hers, in a group - she has been flirting outrageously with me...

Come Sunday we're out again and I don't know if id been rude to her or one of the other guys has said something to her... but she just went really cold all of a sudden.

What do I do? I really like her? Do you think someone has stitched me up?

[amicon]

Nobody but her can answer that so unless you ask her how are you going to find out?

Maybe she is just a flirt and behaves like this towards most guys?

[Shockwave9]

Thing was she was flirting just with me on Friday - I've got a fair amount of status in my social group so she's been kind of drawn to me - all the signs were there but then last night - she was so cold shouldered to me - this other guy is really into her and is always hanging around her and he is a total user/moron.

Don't understand how someone can go cold in 24 hours.

Im convinced he said something.

Oh and also she called me gay last night randomly... and walked straight past me when she left with her housemate didn't even say goodbye.

Shall I freeze out for a bit?

[amicon]

''Freeze out'' for a big bit-ignore her and go about your own business.

[Shockwave9]

What do you reckon the success chance is bearing in mind she is very hot?

[Enigma1999]

What do you reckon the success chance is bearing in mind she is very hot?

I would just leave it alone. Go on about your business.

[talaniman]

If you are too much of a wimp to get facts from her, by actually talking to her like you have some sense, then leave her alone, and stop assuming someone put the bad mouth on you. She probably thinks you are gay because you haven't shown the balls to talk to her like a man.

That will make any female cold to you in a quick minute.

[Shockwave9]

Do you think I've missed my chance with her? - she did also say on Friday that she doesn't want a relationship at the minute (that was in a group conversation btw).

Its been 2 days and no initiation on either side... id personally rather do it face 2 face.

[talaniman]

Do you have the balls to find out? I don't know her, how would I know what goes through her head??

A psychic I am not.

[88sunflower]

Your asking questions that only you can find the answers to. It may seem as though she could have got some wrong impression from someone about you. Or maybe she was flirting waiting for your next advance and she lost interest. I suggest before you lose the chance ask her. Not sure what to say? Start the conversation by maybe asking if she was serious about not wanting a relationship right now. Then you can gage your next step from there. You could say that you were just wondering about that comment because you were interested in taking her out.

[Shockwave9]

Overnight she went cold - seriously - maybe she just wanted some on Friday - she's just got out of a relationship I think 6 months ago - me a year ago. There were a number of 'guy friends' of hers around - maybe this is why she was like she was. Maybe she is a tease. IF she was genuine though I will kick myself - I am going to ask her what you prescribed. Thanks guys - I'm still a bit sensitive around rejection I think as my last relationship ended with my ex cheating on me. Still slightly scarred.

[88sunflower]

Well good luck and keep us posted. Remember rejection can only help you grow. Its better to be rejected then accepted and hurt.

[talaniman]

The mistake we all make is we judge through the filter of our own feelings. You are still scarred from a bad relationship a year ago. Maybe she has scars from only 6 months ago.

If I were you, keep it casual friends may make her more receptive to you, because I doubt she is up for exclusive dating, or romance.

You come off like you're in love, and want romance, she will surely shoot you down. Deal with FACTS, and not just YOUR feelings. Oft times us guys (females too) get so distracted, or carried away by our lusts, and attractions, we fail to see reality for what it is.

If you don't have the guts to deal with your own fears of rejection, either as a date, or just friends, you will never get the facts about YOURSELF, or how to handle YOURSELF.

[Shockwave9]

Ok so today went back into work - and I was greeted with various comments about my 'new best friend' from my female co workers and how this girl has been talking about me all week. I mention Sunday to them, they said they didn't get any bad impression whatsoever... fast forward to this lunchtime, I literally answer my mobile and guess who walks in to the cafeteria, I can sense her as I glimpsed her she saw me and turned and walked in the other direction - I mean ***!! So, I was going to text her... but my logical head said just leave it. And I Have...

[talaniman]

Then leave it, since you rather discuss things with co workers, and not her. Most people played that he said she said tease and tickle in third grade, and have grown up since then. Adults don't play games, they handle their business in a mature way.

Is all this drama at work necessary? It's a bad idea to have drama, even temporary romance at the place you work, and having fun and love is best dealt with after work, on your own time. Maybe you need a social life outside of the work circle. HMMM!!

Being stuck on a co worker you are to afraid to talk to makes no sense what so ever, and is a total waste of your time, energy, and imagination.

[88sunflower]

Tal is hitting it right on. Unless you straight out talk with her then you will never know. It will always be what if.