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jannet123 · Jul 22, 2011, 07:24 PM

I've been with this guy for about 4 month. At first he came and asked me out, he was flirting so much. But at the time I was not ready for starting a new relationship, since I had just broke up with my ex.

So I've been with this guy, like we were with each other all the time, I had told him before that Im not ready for being in a relationship yet, but he never stopped flirting with me.

I started loving him and we became so close to each other, that every one think we are in a relationship. After some times he was acting like he is totally my boyfriend and I was spending all my days with him. He asked me for sex and he was like, "we are in a relationship why not?" and "I need to sleep with you, wont you be jelouse if i sleep with somebody else?". So any ways we started having sex.

Although I never really wanted to. He quite made me do what ever he wanted me to. I was totally helping this guy, I used to do all his homewwork and lent him so much money, because I loved him. After some times I figured out that he is sleeping with a woman but he was telling me before he is not sleeping with anyone and he is just with me.

He would be so upset if I wanted to meet my guy friends. So after I told him that I know what he has done, he was like WE ARE NOT BF, AND GF SO NO COMMITMENT!! He actually told that to my friend. After that I decided to stop being with him, but after a week he started flirting again, and as long as I loved him so much, we started being like before.

We had sex again and I lent him money again. He totally fooled me, and after that he totally changed. Its been a month that he is lying to me. I figured out last night that he has slept with 2 other women and made out in front of one of my friends, and asked her not to talk to me about what's happened. From the start of this relationship he used to lie when he wanted to go to clubs. I wouldn't tell him anything because I loved him sooo much.

NOW I'm so pissed off. I see him everyday in college. I don't know what to do . Do I need to talk to him and tell him what I know? Or he will be like we never had commitment? I just need to tell him that I was not born yesterday, and I'm not a toy, but I don't know what to do .

I still love him so much...

Fr_Chuck · Jul 22, 2011, 07:35 PM

If he is not an official boyfriend and there is no agreement to not date anyone else, he did not cheat on you.

And he sounds so romantic the way he asked to have sex.

At least hookers get paid, but you paid him

jannet123 · Jul 22, 2011, 07:48 PM

We have always been so romantic, the way we text and behave with each other

talaniman · Jul 22, 2011, 08:36 PM

He lied, and cheated yet you took him back to do it again. You call that romantic? He charmed you into being stupid for love, and that's not romance. He preyed on you like a skilled hunter, so of course you are mad, but at yourself for falling for that crap. Too late to blow your anger at him now, after you played dumb TWICE, but you can forgive yourself, let it go and heal, and never play dumb in the future. For him, or anyone else.

JoeCanada76 · Jul 23, 2011, 11:30 AM

After 4 months? It is not a true relationship according to you. It was more sexual. He took you for what you had and you bought it and played into it. It takes more then four months to love some one. It also seems to me that your still to immature for any kind of relationship. Experience life first and let this one be a learning lesson times twice for you.