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Sweet_moment11 · Jul 5, 2011, 02:40 AM

My mom has been married and divorced 3 times; each time with a different man, and each time the relationships ended in a huge mess. She's had so many boyfriends in the past two years that I can't hardly keep track with my fingers anymore.

The vast majority of her boyfriends (the ones that actually bother meeting my sisters and I) only acknowledged me when my mom was around; when left alone, I was lucky if any of them gave me a second glance. My mom is still dating spree, and while I don't feel particularly negelected, it's just kind of unnerving to have a different stranger at the breakfast table every few months. I've talked to my mom about how I feel, but she just says I'm going a "rebellious stage" and that I shouldn't try to tell her how to live her life, when I don't have a stable grasp on mine.

How am I supposed to deal with this? :(

JudyKayTee · Jul 5, 2011, 05:50 AM

Are these men dangerous? How old are you?

Different faces at the breakfast table could cause her to lose custody.

Where is your father in this scenario?

You are her dependent child - she will probably not want to take advice on her life from you. Is there another adult who can talk to her?

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Sweet_moment11 · Jul 5, 2011, 11:45 AM

I'm 15, (just about 16) My biological father passed away about 6 years ago. Her boyfriends aren't aggressive or anything (at most, just kind of creepy) they just completely ignore my existence for the most part.

I do have an Aunt that I talk to, and visit alot; but she and my mother are just barely civil with each other. I'd rather not be the reason that she and my mom jump at eachother's throats. :( I love my mom, I really do; so if possible, I don't want her to lose custody (Is that what it's called?) of me and my sisters. (My sisters are younger than me, they need my mom in their lives... )

JudyKayTee · Jul 5, 2011, 12:04 PM

What about these men is "creepy" - other than they are strangers to you, appearing at the breakfast table, apparently having spent the night.

Have you done anything to get a grip on your depression? It is very possible that you are continuing to mourn your father and that's the reason you are sad and/or depressed.

Sweet_moment11 · Jul 5, 2011, 12:36 PM

They don't say or do anything. At all. (which I guess is better than them doing something bad I guess, but still... )
The most I get out of them are "good mornings/Goodbyes" and that's only if my mom is there to stare them down. If she's not in the room, I might as well be invisible to these people.

I've tried doing charity work and stuff like that to help my outlook on life(someone here at AMHD suggested it) and it's been working actually. I still have little fits of feeling achey and gloomy, but as long as I keep myself busy with work or something, I don't really notice.

JudyKayTee · Jul 5, 2011, 01:12 PM

Good, I'm glad you're feeling better. I was widowed and found that staying busy was the "cure" to feeling "achy and gloomy" as you put it.

I don't think there's much you can do to change your mother at this point - unfortunately. Just keep your eyes open in the event she is abused or someone even is thinking of abusing you or your siblings and hopefully things will be all right. I'd say hopefully she'll meet someone nice, but that may not be what she wants!

And I'm sorry about your Dad -