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niceguylast · Jun 29, 2011, 06:58 PM

I think I know what the answer is going to be but I figured it would be good to hear what other people thought versus what goes on in my head. I have dated my girl for about 2.5 years we have taken breaks before and worked through them fairly quick. This time though she is talking to another guy, hanging out with him to. She says he is just a friend from work but I'm not convinced. We still hung out until this past Saturday when we had an amazing night together. They day after I told her I would give her her space and not contact her and if she wanted to be with me she could meet me somewhere in a couple of weeks. If she doesn't show up I would just take that as were done. I guess what I'm asking is, is 2 weeks enough, am I going about things right. I assume there more than friends at this point but maybe she just needs this before we precede with our future. I just don't know any help or suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Like I said I think I know where its going but I guess I'm just hanging on hope she comes back.

Enigma1999 · Jun 29, 2011, 07:05 PM

It's really hard to say... What I mean, is that while I was married, I had friends of the opposite sex. We were just friends, and NOTHING went on between us.

So, I can't say that they are more than just friends.

Is this a guy that she knew before you came into the picture, or did she meet him while you to were together?

Let me just break this down for you. She is going to do what she wants to do. It's up to her now, to make that choice.

The ball is in her park. I wouldn't chase after her any more. She knows where you stand, and you said your piece. Don't go back on what you said. Let it alone.

I hope this helps.

Good luck.

niceguylast · Jun 29, 2011, 07:15 PM

She meet him when she started her internship maybe about a month ago. I guess over the past couple days and reading several other posts I just need to give her time. If she is with that guy then it is what it is. If she wants to come back then so be it but I just don't know if I should be putting a 2 week time limit on it maybe she will need 3 or 4 I don't know but I guess I just need to know where I stand so I can start moving on or not.

Enigma1999 · Jun 29, 2011, 07:24 PM

She will need what ever tme she needs.

In the mean time, ifI were you, I would just go about your business.

To be quite honest, her just meeting this guy and hanging out with him alone, well, it does leave a bad taste in my mouth.
It would be one thing if all of you were hanging out.

I'm not the jealous type, and God knows, if I'm with someone, and they want out, don't let the door hit you in your arse, but this doesn't look good.

Now maybe it's just me, and there might be NOTHING going on between the two, but I would just do my thing.

Also... if this is the end, trust me when I say, YOU WILL BE OK.

niceguylast · Jun 30, 2011, 05:47 AM

I definitely see what your saying and I know there are plenty of fish in the sea but its just a very weird situation to me. I have done the break thing before but this time is a lot different. She tells me she wants time and then we end up having a great night together where she asked me to sleep over (which is something I don't even think we would have done when we were together), the last thing she text me was really sweet, she want pictures on Facebook of us together and kissing and what not from that night, idn it is just all very weird to say the least... maybe she is just trying to let me down easy or hold on to me in case this other guy doesn't work out. Maybe I just over analysis to lol

talaniman · Jun 30, 2011, 02:18 PM

She needs time give it to her, and do your own thing like she is doing hers. No wonder she keeps taking breaks, because you are waiting to get her back, and she knows it.

Leave her alone guy, and get a life of your own without her, and don't play these mind games of finding false hope in Facebook pictures.

The fact is she dumped you again, and has you waiting in limbo... AGAIN.

Enigma1999 · Jun 30, 2011, 02:23 PM

Also, the more and more you think about it. Trying to figure this out, the more and more upset you will get.

Again, I will repeat, just leave it alone.

She knows where you stand.

niceguylast · Jul 1, 2011, 06:40 AM

You guy are all right its just tough at the moment because its all so fresh and I've never had to wait around before I was the one always taking breaks from her so I guess I know how she felt before. Hopefully ill be better soon though because its killing me inside.