[shellytbaby]

I been dating a guy since 2002 and the problem is... I have not been honest with him and keeping secerts from that he doesn't know and going out to the clubs and bars with out him knowing... what I should do to make our relationship better:mad:

[Karly]

If you want to make your relationship better, you should really tell him as hard as that may be. Guilt is never pretty. Have him sit down with you and explain; let him know that you're not telling him these secrets for relief, but you have complete respect for him and that's why you wouldn't want to hide anything. Everyone makes mistakes; you're admitting to it. You've caught yourself in quite a trap though so it's truly best to tell him and see where it goes from there.

[momincali]

Shelly, basically, you're a dishonest person and if he's a good guy, he doesn't deserve that. He will find out one day, and things will not go in your favor. If you have the capability of being honest, walk a straight line, if you can't do that and just want what you want, then let him have the chance of being with someone who will. I don't think you made a mistake. A mistake is when you get dressed in the dark and put on different color socks. What you do is continually make bad choices, and it's a pattern, not an event. I hope he doesn't dump you, but if he does, understand that your behavior would be easy to trust and be kind to him and let him go.

[talaniman]

Try being honest