[SMURFIE01]

My boyfriend and I live together and I find the experience amazing, but sometimes I can't help but feel he regrets living with me. Before we moved in together I lived with my grandmom and I always lied to her to see him and so lying became very easy. Now I lie to my friends and to him sometimes. Lately it was his best friend lets call him sam. He recently started dating this girl amanda, and sam asked us not to say anything bad about him to amanda. One night I had too much to drink and I told her that I had dated sam years ago and I don't know why I said it. The next day sam came to pick me up from work because we get off at the same time, he was very quiet. Later on he asked me if I told amanda that we dated and I said yes she asked me but she never asked! He said if he wanted amanda to know he would have told her and that now amanda thinks sam is hiding stuff from her. Sam is my bf's best friend and I don't want to ruin their friendship. I have a terrible lying problem and its going to tear up my relationship with my boyfriend. Sometimes I just find myself telling stupid lies with no reason, what is wrong with me and what does my boyfriend think? I have said sorry to sam but he hates me I saw the sms on my bf's cell.

[BK201]

You have told sorry to Sam, and hope you have told about this to your boyfriend too.
Once done is done, so do not worry much about this. But make sure you do not lie in the future to cover up the mistakes you did. People do mistakes, from which we learn. But we never learn from our lies. Let's say, you told Sam that you were drunk and told Amanda by mistake, he would have still hated you. But at least, you were honest and told the truth. In this case, nobody can question you and you won't have to say lies again to cover up the previous lies. You know that unwanted lies only breed trouble. So, what are you going to do about it?

About the question, what does your boyfriend think about you, you said you saw a message on his phone, did he ask you about what happened with Sam? If he has not asked you yet, we cannot guess what is running in his mind. Better tell him what happened as soon as possible. Else he might start thinking that you might be lying about so many things.

[Fr_Chuck]

You change, you control what you say, obviously there is both a drinking issue, ( if you are blaming the drinking) and there is a maturity issue, if you believe lies will not come back

[SMURFIE01]

He smsed me and asked what happened between me and sam and then I called him and told him but when he got home he didn't bring it up again and I still feel awful because sam picks me up after work because my boyfriend works late and now I have to face him that is if he picks me up.

[SMURFIE01]

Drinking is not to blame, I don't know what came over me. I know lies always come back but somehow I don't learn!!

[talaniman]

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/marria...ut-579013.html

How old are you and your husband/boyfriend? Stop lying to him, and everyone else or they think YOU are hiding something, and you will never live through the drama and hurt feelings your lying causes.

If you don't learn your lessons from your mistakes, be it drinking, lying, or anything else, then you only cause MORE problems, drama, and confusion. Like having a boyfriend in this post, and a husband in the other one.

Lying is a habit you should do something about, as well as your drinking.

[BK201]

You have realized by yourself that lying only brings trouble. Which makes you a good person
After all, and don't worry, Sam will understand. Tell him, it was a mistake and it won't happen again. You don't have to carry the guilt because I am sure you are not going to lie unnecessarily again. Sam still picks you up from work, so I bet he doesn't carry anything in his mind.

[J_9]

It's called "open mouth insert foot" syndrome. Try thinking about what you say before you say it.