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Akhil.kumar243 · Jun 19, 2011, 08:56 PM

I'm akhilesh kumar , my age is 22 year and I love one girl and I don't know that she love me or not. She comed hear my neighbour renter room and when she come look me from their balcony. In starting I don't look here but automatically I look her and I love her .after 2 days she retun their own home and when she go. Her relative is also Home to drain but when they drain home I folow their and found their new room . Girl is not living here. I don't know her name, phone no , home. What should I do now? I cannot take him out of my mind So please advice me how to get her. M tried of crying. I want to know that she is loving me or not.

Alty · Jun 19, 2011, 09:44 PM

Have you ever even spoken to this girl?

If not, then I doubt she loves you. Heck, I doubt she even knows you exist. You saw her on a balcony and fell in love? That's not realistic.

Why not try falling in love with someone you have actually spoken to, dated, gotten to know?

Akhil.kumar243 · Jun 19, 2011, 11:12 PM

I'm shy person and when I looked her she looked me and give smile. I don't know her name, phone no , home but I know her uncle and anty home. Should I talk to her anty because when she looked me than mostly time her anty was their so I thought that his anty is help me in this metter. So what I do . *** help me

kcomissiong · Jun 20, 2011, 06:49 AM

@ The op... that is a pretty inappropriate use of the rating system. Furthermore, this is the teen forum and you are 22 years old... try relationships. If you want advice, you should stop stalking her, and pretending that you have a relationship that doesn't exist. Use your time to get to know women who are actually interested in you, or even know you at all.

kcomissiong · Jun 20, 2011, 07:00 AM

Balancer... this was a fair answer

Alty · Jun 20, 2011, 07:05 PM

Akhil.kumar243 does not find this helpful : when she looked me she give me smile and when I don't look her she try to look me

Time to read the rules of the site. Rules you agreed to when you signed up.

Unhelpful ratings are for factually incorrect answers. Let me clarify. If I posted that cows say meow, then you could give me an unhelpful rating. That statement isn't true or accurate. But, my post was opinion, and not at all inaccurate based on what you told us.

Seeing as you didn't bother to read the rules you agreed to when you signed up, and you gave me a negative rating that's against those rules, I'm not inclined to post further on your thread, and I doubt many others will. Why risk a negative rating just for stating your opinion, when you volunteer to help people.

I don't mind a negative rating when it's deserved, but yours was completely undeserved.

Good luck to you.

Cat1864 · Jun 21, 2011, 05:08 AM

Akhilesh, how many times have you seen her?

Have you actually talked to her relatives or do you 'know' them by following them around and spying on them?

I think you need to examine what you know about her and what you don't. Do you know her caste, her religion, her marital status (is she already promised to another man or even married), her personality, etc.

All you really seem to know about her is the fantasy you have built up in your mind. This is real life. It is not a movie, book, music video, folk tale, etc. Very rarely does a smile across a great divide become more than a shared friendly moment.

You are young and I don't think you quite understand the emotions you are experiencing. I think you saw an attractive woman and have become obsessed. Obsession is not a good thing. It can lead you to do things that you know you shouldn't like following her relatives to their home. It can also cause you to react negatively to the people who are trying to help you.

My advice is to stop obsessing about her. Stop trying to find her. Stop stalking her relatives. Live your life as you were before you saw her.

Look around you and see the available women in your life who you interact with on a daily basis. Give yourself a chance to put shyness aside and get to know them. It doesn't matter if they are fantasy material or not. What does matter is helping you learn how to communicate with people on a personal level.

There is always a chance you will someday find her, but you need to be more grounded in how you think about her. If you met her right now, you would have extremely unrealistic expectations of her and her reactions to you. You need to keep in mind she may have a very different perception of the balcony scene than you do. To her, she could have been trying to be neighborly. If you ever do meet her, you need to be able to see her as the person she is instead of who you think she should be.