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The_dazzler · Jun 7, 2011, 06:07 AM

OK I was afraid my girlfriend was selling pills again. So I got curious and read her texts which I feel horrible about but turns out she is selling again. I care about her more then she knows I don't want anything to happen to her. I don't know how to confront this situation cause she more then likely be furious which I don't blame her. I do not approve of this. Any feedback would be greatly appreciative good or bad

I wish · Jun 7, 2011, 07:48 AM

I suggest that you consider these options:

1) If you confront her about it, you will admit to breaking her trust by breaching her privacy. Though your intentions may be good, you do risk losing her.

If I were you, I would explain that you love her and that you only want what's best for her, even if it was at the cost of you losing her trust. There's no guarantee that she won't get angry, but it's the truth, so it seems, since you did breach her trust.

2) You keep it to yourself, but it will probably constantly bother you because you will be tempted to keep checking her phone to get updates.

The_dazzler · Jun 7, 2011, 08:52 AM

Thank you for your comment... yeah that's what I am afraid of... she did sell some pills to her friend last weekend when I was there so I will probably just ask her if she's selling again and hope for the truth... I am not made at her nor do I want to argue about this matter. I am just very concerned that is a very risky business and she has a lot on the line as do I... if doesn't tell me the truth though I honestly don't know where I stand with her... I love her to do death and I would do just about anything for but if she's not willing to talk to me about there's not much I can do

I wish · Jun 7, 2011, 09:13 AM

One thing is for sure, she's obviously hiding certain aspects of her life from you.

Instead of worrying about what she should or should not do. Maybe it's time for you to reconsider this relationship. It's one thing to love someone to death, but it's another to have a healthy relationship.

A healthy relationship doesn't happen unilaterally. It requires both people. At the moment, it seems like a major part of your relationship is only going one-way.

The_dazzler · Jun 7, 2011, 10:48 AM

yes I agree completely... its not normally like this we have a very open relationship and talk about everything but with this she knows it bothers me so she is trying to hide it... but I am going to talk to her tonight about the matter and we will see where it goes. I will let you know how it goes... thanks again for all the advice =D