[ddd1109]

Been dating this lady for 6 months. The relationship was pretty heavy heading towards marriage. I was doing a lot financially for her and her 3 kids as well as I'm a single parent of 1. Now she's telling me she wants to take her time and figure out who she is. Also she has mentioned about dating others, when confronted she said well I'm not saying I'm dating others but it's her choice if she wanted to. I was moving in the direction of marriage and trying to secure things as a family. Today she said to me her ex liked that she moved slow and shows independence and there's others who like her this way. She does not want to commit to the relationship. She says she has too many things going on in her life right now. Which I can agree there are some things going on but to a certain degree I'm feeling used.

[BK201]

From what you say, I agree that you are being used. Not worthy of your dedication and commitment. The value of you will be realized by the other party only when she looses you.

[talaniman]

I don't think you are being used, just rushing to fast into things. All of this talk about marriage, commitment, and financial support in just 6 MONTHS?!

That's way to fast. Plus you already know that's not what she wants right now, so there is no longer a point to keep down this instant, dedicated, boyfriend, who wants to be married path.

What's your hurry fella??