[David85]

Hi, I see that there are a lot of people in the same boat as me. But I just want to make sure I am not a different case as I like to think I am.

I was seeing a girl for a few months. We had a great time. She has just gotten out of a serious relationship of almost 3 years a month prior to us meeting.

We spoke constantly, we hung out, had an amazing time. I fell for her... hard.

She was honest with me from the start saying she wasn't ready to get serious yet etc. Then one day out of the blue she said we can't be more than friends right now. No dates etc.
I have kept in contact with her for a little over a month now, sometimes she is really excited sometimes she is distant. She goes out of her way to make sure I know she isn't seeing anyone at all. She has told me how much she likes me, loves hanging out, and 'hopes' it will work out. I have told her I would wait this out as she knows my intentions and that I wouldn't do anything with other girls.

She has told me if she hadn't just gotten out of that relationship then it would be a different story... But she needs to figure herself out. She and I are both very busy with work and I am OK with waiting. I am 26 years old and I have NEVER EVER felt this way about a girl, not even my ex of 3 years. I know where she is, which is why I feel the way I do in regards to waiting I believe. On top of the fact that she has been completely honest with me throughout this entire time! She just moved less than a mile away from me last week as well.

What do I do? Do I cut off all contact? Do I continue speaking with her? Do I ask her to hang out? Or is she letting me down gently? I am just so into her that I do not want to make the wrong move.

PLEASE HELP! I want to be with her so badly.

[amicon]

The key phrase here is she just got out of a longterm relationship.

She needs to heal from that break up before she becomes involved with anyone else.

You should leave her be to work this through on her own.

Coming from where you are at I would be wary of waiting around for her; you're better off carrying on living your own life and let the future take care of itself.

[David85]

I understand exactly where she is coming from. Yet it has been almost 2 months now since we last hung out, we still speak though. It has now been 6 months since she has broken up with her boyfriend. Yes I know that is nothing in the long term. But I have told my friends that she most certainly can be 'the one'. If I didn't feel this strongly, I would just move on no problem. But how can I leave something this great on the table? I am a very good looking guy and I honestly have no problem with girls. She is really something special though, and I feel l would regret it for a long long time.