[nanzylim]

Were almost 1 year married and the relationships was not that healthy because of always arguing into something that is small.

I've been paranoid this couple of months and I don't know what am I going to do.. I always think of he's having an affair to someone. It seems like I'm crazy.. I'm very much in love with my husband and I've been jealous to all the girls that he has linked on.

He has no time for me even if he doesn't worked. I asked him to go on date even we don't have money but he refuse to go because he wants to go on date when we have money. Is it right? We can have our date even if we don't have too much money, what's important is that we have both quality time.

I really don't now what to do.. too much paranoid and I can't help myself seeing him with some other girls..

What's wrong with me..

[joypulv]

We can't know if anything is wrong with you or not.. maybe your suspicions are based on reality and maybe not. But relationships MUST have trust or they fail. In other words, unless proof that he is dating other women smacks you right in the face, you can't assume that just because he isn't all romantic and loving anymore, that means he is wandering. You yourself need a network of friends both male and female, and if he has them on Facebook or whatever, so should you. Not as revenge but as something you need anyway.

The number one solution to feeling unloved and getting suspicious is to have FRIENDS to talk to, do things with, share interests and events that your husband doesn't want to do, and keep you from being isolated with just him. You can also join groups or classes that you like, without him. You don't have to make him jealous or tease him, you will just be more interesting yourself.

And lastly - if for any reason your marriage fails or he dies, you need that wider life and those friends to be there for you.