[Gowerx]

I've been with my girlfriend for 9 month, she said she loves me and I love her, she went on holiday last week for 7 days with 2 friends and when she got back she told me how much she missed me and how much she loves me. The day after it was my birthday, we spend the day together and it was amazing. She slept my house yesterday everything seemed fine until she was texting her friend from the holiday, and every time she got a text she was acting like she didn't want me to see what she was texting, and was acting abit suspicious, so I asked her about it and she said nothing was wrong so I left it at that. Then today when she went home a few hours later I got a text saying she loves me and I mean the world to her but she just needs a break, she said she doesn't know what is wrong with her but she said don't ring her she'll speak to me soon, she's told me I've not done anything and won't tell me where this has come from. In my mind I think its something to do with the holiday, but I'm not entierly sure, where still in a relationship on Facebook and she hasn't told anyone that where on a break, so what does this mean? I really want her back, I've not rang or text her since the text and I'm not going to until she speaks to me, any ideas?

[Jwr5885]

Man that's rough. Tough call it could be just that she really does need space or she met someone else while she was away. The fact that she was acting weird points more to the latter. I would do what you have been doing and give her space and see where it goes. When you do talk I would ask her if she is seeing anyone and listen to her response if it comes with hesitation and anger chances are she is but see there is a song that states what you do on your own time is fine my imagination is much worse. See I have that problem too where I over analyze things and always think the worst. But give her time her actions will speak for themselves.

[fadedjade]

Sounds tricky... is she still being distant?

It could be that while she was on the holiday she felt more independent in a way and thought that being in a relationship is making her forget who she is while she's not with you... sounds very confusing I know but girls are strange creatures sometimes..
It could just be a case of you both having to spend a bit of time apart as in you going out with your friends and her going out with hers.

If the silence lasts for a long time I would ring her, not text just because it's a little impersonal and if you guys have been together for 9 months I'm sure you comfortable enough to talk on the phone. Don't act desperate or anything :) just ask her how she is and what she's been up to, tell her what you;ve been doing, you know a normal conversation. And ask to meet up for a drink.. make sure you tell her it can just be friendly if she wants it to be. Don't push the topic but tell her how you still feel and ask her if there's still something there.. if she needs time answering give her time but let her know that leaving you hanging for weeks on end is not something nice girls should do.

Good luck! And I hope everything works out for you

[talaniman]

When a partner asks for a break, you always ask them what do they mean by a break. Then you won't be confused, and know how to act accordingly. Ask her what she is talking about, what she means by a break.

Its good you have left her alone, and given her that break, but get out and do your thing, and see this as a break up, as its not fair to wait for the break to be over, when you don't know when its over.

Me, I disappear, as when they give you the line about being friends and hanging out, no matter what the Facebook says, then they are up to something, or else they would be very specific with this break crap.