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Wonder82 · May 9, 2011, 01:49 PM

I met this girl through a friend. I sent her flowers at work to ask her out and she said she would go as a friend. I knew wonce I got her out that I could work my way into more. I took her to a baseball game and dinner. The game got rained out so the next day we went to the make up game and after we went on a helicopter ride. She kept telling me she didn't want a relationship. We wnet out that night and she was really flirty. She kept holding my hand and kissing my cheek, jumping on my back. She let me lay in her bed and rub her head until she fell asleep. The next morning she called me to tell me how much fun she had. About a day later she sent me a text that said I can't handle this. I sent her a long text explainging how I felt and she didn't respond for few days. COme to find out she was out camping and had no service. I backed off a bit and she texted me and we still text hear and there. I know she was interested by how she acted and I admit I may have come on a little strong, but now that I see that I want to fix it cause I really like this girl. Its kind of new territory for me cause I usually don't like to get involved but she has a lot of what I look for. Anyway what can I do to fix this.

ken007nielsen · May 9, 2011, 02:13 PM

Certainly, if your positive you haven't ruined things.

Give her some space, let her come to you. And if she does, have a good time, and don't be to serious, play on your strengths(mine's flirty and funny) and enjoy a good time - don't get your expectations up, just focus solely on having a good time. If it leads to something more great, buf if it doesent don't get caught up on it - there's going to be other girls with even more of the things your looking for.

Bottom line, enjoy yourself - see where it goes.

And a little tip for you, don't smother the girls instead be a little reserved and for the most part let them come to you.

Wonder82 · May 11, 2011, 02:25 PM

WE went to a concert last night, had a good time. Follow up also I didn't add before. Her friend told she thought I came on too strong, that's why I backed off. I agree with the space but how much time do you think also. Like when we go out I buy her whatever I always spring for whatever and say hey do you want this or that. Do you think that's a bad idea to do that kind of thing. I always was taught to pay for everything when with a girl like chivalry I just don't know what is over doing it. I guess it's a little bit of a sign that she went to the concert with me

ken007nielsen · May 11, 2011, 02:59 PM

I'm also taught that you should pay for things on dates, but not gift's, like for dinner and such - it's all right to give a present once and a while, but don't overdo it!

And yes, don't come on to strong keep your distance thus making you look harder to get and more mysterious. I know it's weird but abit cold is the way to a girls heart in most cases!

Wonder82 · May 12, 2011, 02:44 AM

Ok so is like buying her concert ticket and stuff OK even if in a group of people and not a date. Or if we go to the bar with friends should I buy her drinks or is that over doing it. Also were supposed to go to another concert this weekend with friends. There are some good looking girls going. Is trying to make her a little jealous a bad idea

ken007nielsen · May 12, 2011, 03:34 AM

Never try and make another person jealous, it's immature and unhealthy.

You can buy her some drinks, if you want but don't pay for her night out..

mmresd · May 12, 2011, 11:17 AM

If you think you have come on a little strong, then the solution is to back off and hope she doesn't flee from you. Sometimes a connection with another human being only lasts a matter of hours, so that if that night seemed to be magical for the both of you the next day might be dull. It happens all the time. When you go out clubbing and you get numbers because the girls genuinely feel attracted to you, the next day when you call them, they might not exhibit the same energy as they did the night before, nor be attracted to you any longer. It just happens. However, if you are trying to still get with this girl, I suggest that you do not concentrate so much in getting in her pants as "I knew [once] I got her out that I could work my way into more" suggests. Because they catch on pretty quick sometimes. To answer of where the buying everything line is works likes this. Buy her what she NEEDS, and think about buying what she might WANT (don't do it 100%), and unnecessary things like flowers should only be given once in a while, to keep the "special" feel to it.

Good Luck,
Javi