[Samy59]

I was with my boyfriend for 7 months. Not long but I fell deeply in love with him I did lots for him. We had a few arguments and split ups at first where he would say he doesn't know if he can commit and doesn't want to hurt me as his ex girlfriend hurt him.

He was also married but separated but I always thought he was divorced he did mention it was an arrange marriage, he wasn't ever happy in that marriage, he felt suffocated, but has three kids with her. Just about a week ago we split up when he told me he wasn't divorced and he is heading toward bankruptcy because he's in a lot of debt with family so has to get back with his wife.

When he left we tried to be friends and it seemed as though he wasn't feeling any pain. I found out that a week after we split up he was out clubbing really drunk and went to a girls house he says he broke down and talked about me but I don't believe that I think he has been with her. I love him so much and just don't know what to do. I would like to know if he ever loved me, it whether I was a bit on the side until he came off his tag?

[amicon]

He used you-please have nothing more to do with this poor excuse for a man.

Don't think about being friends,walk away and eventually you'll be happy you dodged a bullet.

[talaniman]

He obviously didn't feel for you as strongly as you felt for him, and the important thing is leave him alone, so he can handle his business properly at home.

I think you were but an unhealthy escape from his problems. Sorry.

[mmresd]

I would definitely vote as you being used by him to flee his current situation. Next time, make sure the man you are with has no more ties with his past so that some BULL like this doesn't happen to you again.

Good Luck,
Javi