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emot88emot · May 4, 2011, 01:51 PM

My boyfriend of one year dump me after 2 weeks of giving birth to his child. He said he just waited for my delivery before he broke the news. I was dumbfounded, my world crushed on me. Just when we have this little angel and I began to love him more and more. I was one moth pregnant when I slept one time with my ex boyfriend... I felt so hurt and depressed at that time remembering the other girl he was havingan affair with for three months. So it is like me and girl as his girlfriend started almost at the same time and for three months he was playing around. I forgive him and accepted him back. He claimed he never asked or wanted to have the other girl take him back.

I don't know want to do. He was the one who cheated first. But he won't forgive or forget it. He said he already swore he does not want the relationship back. It would just caused suffering for us both and the baby. I asked for second chance but he rejected the idea. What should I do? I feel he fooled me all along. My baby has his last name. Is it a good idea. HELP! I'm so depressed. I want to get him back. Is it going to be worth it?

JudyKayTee · May 4, 2011, 02:00 PM

Getting revenge never works out - sleeping with your "ex" because he slept with his "ex" was a dangerous thing to do.

I would certainly go to Court and file for child support.

If his name is on the birth certificate it's too late to change your mind.

As far as getting him back it sounds like was pretty clear that he doesn't want to come back because he's pretty sure your relationship won't last and he'll leave again.

I don't think it's worth spending time and energy trying to resume the relationship - spend that time and energy on your child and see how things work out.

sharper11 · May 13, 2011, 02:02 PM

I was one moth pregnant when I slept one time with my ex boyfriend. I don't know want to do. He was the one who cheated first.

This is very immature. You do not fight fire with fire when it comes to cheating and relationships.

He said he already swore he does not want the relationship back. It would just caused suffering for us both and the baby. I asked for second chance but he rejected the idea.

Take that exactly as it played out. This relationship is over, and for the better of your child. I suggest growing up and moving on.

my baby has his last name. Is it a good idea.

If the birth Certificate is final, than it is too late (for now, and without a little RED-TAPE)

I'm so depressed. Is it going to be worth it?

I am sorry you ate depressed. it will get better. Move on from this and grow. It will be better for the child in the long run. Make sure the father is still in your babies life (if that is what the father wants) and make sure he steps up an takes care of your baby (child support)

joypulv · May 14, 2011, 04:42 PM

You sound young, and you jumped right into major responsibility without taking the old fashioned steps of really getting to know someone, waiting for financial security, and getting married. Now the courts are clogged (at taxpayer expense, us) with battles over paternity and custody and visitation and child support, for parents who have no money, either of them.

I'm very sorry you got dumped in such an awful way. Almost everyone gets dumped, and it almost always feels awful. Gather friends and family around you, and they will convince you that he isn't worth it, but that you need to go to court right away. Find another mother with child this happened to, and be roommates, so that each of you can get out for school or part time jobs. Maybe 2 mothers and 2 children.