[dustbunny]

Hey guys I have a girlfriend who I love and she says she loves me too and we have a great relationship and everything but there's a guy she told me she liked before me in my class and I don't know if its just me but she seems to look at him with a look of desire. I don't doubt that she loves me because I can tell she does but I just can't get this out of my head. I think she might still like him... what do you think?

[sharper11]

You are in an odd position. Is this a High School Class or College Class? WIll you be in class together often?

This could be a bit of paranoia based on what she told you, or it's really happening and you have the right to be concerned.

I'm very surprised she would bring "her liking him" up to you and still pursue (or admire him) in front of you. If it is a serious issue that is damaging your relationship with her, you may want to bring it up and let her know that it bothers you. At the same time, this may make you seem insecure.

If I were you, and she gave you no reason to believe she would cheat on you, just let it go and realize YOU are dating her and be happy about that. (I've seen my wife check guys out, the same why a dude would check out a woman walking by, I always call her out on it ;) )

[dustbunny]

Im in high school and thanks :) I think I might just be paraniod but she never talks to him but she almost looks like she's gazing at him and when I look at her if she sees me she looks back like she wasn't looking at him. Also she never talks to him but that could because she knows ill be jealous though I already am

[sharper11]

In your case, just be yourself. If she is getting too obvious with starring at him, you may need to talk to her. It's a bit "obsessive". You can't control what she does, but you can control how you react to it. -- I hope it's just your imagination and she is actually starring at the clock over his head ;)

[talaniman]

So what if she LOOKS at an ex? She probably had some fond memories. Fact is she is with you so don't sweat the small stuff.