[vitalsigns]

Hi
So I was in a relationship with a girl for 2 years. We loved each other very much and even talked about marriage and what not.
Over the last few months, a serious of events happened and we have been taking breaks and what not. We were finally putting the prices back together and she wanted to take things slow, I told her that I think we should take a month or two off from each other (no contact) to get our heads straight.
After a week of no contact, when I was at work, I became bored and check plentyoffish.com and found my girlfriend made a profile on there and I freaked out. I contacted her and she told me she was lonely and just wanted to talk to someone, that all. She said she didn't even respond to anyone, and just deleted the messages.
Well I became very jealous and decided to make a fake profile and messaged her. Sure enough she messaged me back.

I freaked out, txted her just basically said 'f*** you, you lying b****' and I told her I wanted my things back and not to contact me ever again. I said I couldn't trust her( I can) and I didn't love her (I do). The thing is, this was in the heat of the moment and I don't want to lose her, I love her so much. I just don''t know what to do.

Also I recognize that I have a serious control/jealousy issue. I don't know what to do. How can I fix this, to give us another shot?

[amicon]

You need to work on your issues regardless of what happens with your ex in the future.

You could try apologizing and communicating honestly about what went wrong in your relationship-if she's at all willing to speak to you again.

Personally,if someone were to speak to me using the kind of language you used I wouldn't want anything more to do with them.

Taking breaks rather than working together to solve problems is a major red flag,so I wouldn't get my hopes up.

[I wish]

If she already started online dating, then she already moved on with her life. The reason she might keep you hanging around is because while she's out experimenting, you're her safety net. If things don't work out in the field, she can always come home crying to you.

It's time to accept that you're not longer her priority. It's time to move on.

As for your controlling and jealous issues, I think it's more about insecurity and short tempered.

What you really need is to build some self-esteem and confidence. Secondly, you need to work on keeping your cool and not blowing up when things get intense.

[talaniman]

So many red flags, don't know where to start. All the breaks, she wants to go slow and you want No Contact.

After a week of no contact, when I was at work, I became bored and check plentyoffish.com and found my girlfriend made a profile on there and I freaked out

I find this to incredible to believe, but with the other facts, this thing has been going down hill for a very long time and been over even longer. What you expect her to sit and be bored like you were during NC???

No guy, this is one you leave alone, and deal with your own issues, and finally accept what the facts were telling you a long time ago.