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H became "friends with a freaking UGLY coworker, not just physically ugly but inside and out. She is married, yet became obsessed with him, stalking him at work and emailing until he had to get HR involved to get her to F**K OFF, at which point she proceeds to stalk me.. ***? She says they slept together and he loves her and bla bla bla, they talked for approx month and saw each other outside of work like 10 times when I found out, I blocked all contact at that point as it was inappropriate and she had sent him a I miss you so so so much text which enraged me his reply was whatever freak to that, she says they were in love he says it was nothing except friends and she got wrong idea,and he was not talking to her before I found out because of that, I know when they saw each other and for how long and don't believe it was a affair, am I naïve to believe him that nothing happened? And why 7 months later does she stalk me and not him, we have kids and she terrifies me. If I see her drive by I won't go home as I don't want her to disciver where I live. Oh and she still works same place as him, he's a exec and she cleans toilets... ideas.. anyone ever deal with this nuttiness?

[Alty]

I take offense at your use of language. You may find her unattractive, but show a little respect. Not everyone is a gorgeous model. Also, nice way to circumvent the censors by putting a * in your curse word. We have children on this site, and the * fools no one. Please watch your language while you use this site. Thank you.

Now, about your problem. If she's married, tell her that her husband will find out about her stalking unless she stops immediately.

If you can prove that she's stalking you, or you fear for your safety and that of your kids, then get a restraining order.

I'm surprised that they didn't fire her once your friend laid charges against her, but that's something your friend has to deal with, not you.

Only the two of them know what happened between them. It sounds like your friend was overly friendly and she took that as flirting. Now she's moved on to you. Is it so hard to believe that your friend was just nice to her, but never slept with her, and she became obsessed? After all, you haven't slept with her and now she seems to be stalking you.