[ramonce12]

Moved to its own thread


I am a Certified Public Accountant (CPA) and have been busy the past couple of weeks. I met a woman online on match (shes 26/i am 30) and we went out on one date and spoke on the phone a couple of times. She was really excited about our date and texted often afterwards. I was very busy with work and our timing couldn't have been worse. I told her now wasn't a good time to date because of work/stress.

Then I let a week pass regretting my decision the whole time. I called her up and asked her out and she said she would get back to me as she is really busy and two days later texted me that she started seeing someone. She still signed into match regularly after that text for another week. She only just closed down her profile one week after texting me.

I really want to date this woman because Ive realized that dating is more important than work and our first date went so well.

Do I call her up and ask her out after she texted me a week ago that she started seeing someone? Do I text her to feel her out? Do I pursue her? Do women like to be pursued/fought for early on or does this come across as creepy?

Advice please!

[talaniman]

For one you never rejected new people because you are busy. That's what texts are for, to stay in touch so maybe when you are not busy you can hook up.

You kind of screwed up, and missed your window of opportunity, and should reset with other options and opportunities, plan B or whatever you call it. Back online would be a start. And not get fixated by the one that got away.

If you keep it real, send her a text, and see if she is doing anything, or is up for a reconnect, but that's just me, and I have never been fixated by a single date, or worried about competition, or rejection. I know, kind of risky! So what? That's what dating is all about I figured way back in the day.

Talaniman Rule - Date them all. Fat, short, skinny, or tall. 18-80, blind, cripple, or crazy!!!

The point is to keep yourself balanced, and not count on one person to have something to do. You are disappointed, and you made a mistake, and the smart guy learns from his mistakes, and does better with the next opportunity. If not with her, with another.

Oh, And I really wanted to date every female I ever got attracted too, to bad some of them didn't feel the same. Oh well, plenty of others, so don't get stuck on the last one, focus on the next!!!

[I wish]

You definitely missed the boat on this one. Why are you doing online dating when you don't even have time to go out? I must say, it's better to get your life together before you start dating, so that you won't have these types of problems again.

She's already moved on, so it's best that you do the same.