[tuck60]

Starterd speaking to this girl and asked her out. She said yes so we went out for something to eat. We got on pretty well and she said she had a good time etc and would like to do something again. When I aksed her about this she said that she has just come out of a long term relationship which she wasn't over but would still like to do something again as friends. She has still been quite flirty with texts since then though. Should I ask her whether it could still lead to something or just leave it?

[redhed35]

she said she would like to do something again as friends, if you take that at face value, which I would, and have no expectations of a developing relationship, then go for it.

it you want something more, move on.

[Homegirl 50]

I agree with redhed35. She wants friendship only. If you want something more move on to someone else.

[I wish]

I don't think you need to read between the lines. She already said she would like to get together again as friends. It's just another way of letting you down easy.

If you want something more, then find someone else.

[talaniman]

Nothing wrong with making friends, just keep it real, and keep a safe emotional distance, and don't make her your love interest. That means keep the proper balance, and not allow yourself to be carried away by notions of romance.

Keeping it real means you have a lot of other things to do besides hanging out with her all the time. That's how rebound relationship starts. When you make yourself to available for someone that you might like who is healing, and needs time, and a friend to lean on, you are asking for trouble.

Sometimes we mistake gratitude for love, because they are both some intense feelings, and when combined with lust, oh boy do we get fooled big time. Keep as safe emotional distance with this new female friend, as tempting as she may be.

Things could change in the future, but for now be a friend, and let her heal properly, and let yourself continue to heal properly. Like I said, keep it real, as she was honest with you, so you be honest with her, and yourself. You have been down this road before very recently, so why go down it again.