[blah1011]

Well, my girlfriend and I have been dating for about 2 and a half months now and before we started dating we spent a month of pretty much just spending a lot of time together and getting to know each other than the love started building up and we've gotten extremely close in the past couple months.. but a month and a half ago she let me in that this boy she's had a on and off thing with ever since she was 12 was in the army and on life support and that he was going to be taken off it on the 26th so when that happened she got really depressed they were off course cause we were dating and so her mom asked if I could do something to help her through this tough time something to cheer her up so I asked her to prom in a cute way and on the night I do she finds out someone else passed away she was close with these two deaths happened within a week of each other well about a week after the 2nd death she says she wants a break.. she has depression she takes medicine for it and I'm just wondering what should I do? Cause she's acting completely different, even leading up to the death that she knew was going to happened we talked all the time and never got sick of each other, never argued, we were doing fantastic to say the least, and than all this happened and I'm just wondering what I can do to help her through this tough time and not lose her. When she said she wanted a break she called me and we talked about all of what's happened and we both started to cry and than she said she wanted a break.. I'm just wondering what's the best thing I can do right now, I send her a goodmorning and goodnight text with a little message in it showing I care, and I just need help with my situation cause not being with her is driving me crazy, I'm not insecure or worried that she will cheat I trust her completely, I just want some advice I'm so lost on what to do, I just want her to be happy like she was before all this happened.

[amicon]

You can only be there for her,should she wish to speak with you.

Hopefully her family is there to help her out.

[talaniman]

Sorry guy, but you can't make a grieving person happy, you can only support them when they let you, but you have to let them grieve and mourn their own way, in their own time.

That's really hard to do because you care a lot so you feel their pain, but the important thing to remember, its her pain, so do not complicate things with your own frustrations of being helpless.

She asked for a break, then give it to her. Is this a break up, I don't know. Doesn't matter, just give her what she asked for. If she wants your support, she will ask for that to. But she hasn't yet so back off.

Sorry. Wish I could tell you something better, but I can't.

[mmresd]

Sounds like this girl has too many problems of her own and you are really only making life harder for her. If you really love her get out of her life right now so that she can sort things out in her head. Is going to take a while and it might lead to you two never been together, but as of right now she definitely not ready to be in a relationship with you. Also, you need to learn how to control your emotions, you will NOT go crazy from this, you WILL survive this, just give it time.

Good luck,
Javi