[nikkie07]

Im a girl and my friend (also a girl) and I have sex all the time. She says she's not gay and sometimes she tells me she doesn't want to have sex at all. She calls me everyday and we spend the night with each other every night. I really love her but I think some times she's really confused and doesn't know what she wants what do u think?

[adviceishere]

How old are you both Nikkie? Do you know who you are? Are you lesbian or not so sure yet?

[nikkie07]

Im 18 she's 19, I consider myself to be bi but I like girls more.We started as good friends but one night we got drunk and started messing around. Every since that night that's all we would do. She even ask me to be her girlfriend and I agreed. But one minute she wants to be with me and other times she acts like she doesn't. Its really stressing me out and I don't know what to do. I don't really want to lose her, but I don't want her playing with my emotions either.

[Fr_Chuck]

First if that is all you ever do, "don't" if you want a real relationship you need to have other things you are doing.
And if you are going to have a real relationship spend more time talking and less time in bed.

[adviceishere]

Im 18 shes 19, I consider myself to be bi but I like girls more.We started off as good friends but one night we got drunk and started messing around. Every since that night thats all we would do. She even ask me to be her girlfriend and I agreed. But one minute she wants to be with me and other times she acts like she does'nt. Its really stressing me out and I dont know what to do. I dont really want to lose her, but I dont want her playing with my emotions either.

When you say she acts like she doesn't want to be with you, could it be that your just reading too much into this? Or does she actually say she doesn't want to be with you? And as fr chuck said, if its all about fooling around and stuff then I don't blame her pulling away. I wouldn't want my boyfriend to just want to fool around and have sex all the time.

Have you tried taking her out on a date and then dropping her home with only a good night kiss and nothing more? This could work wonders if you have already done it.

[nikkie07]

Wow I never really thought about it like that maybe you are right

[adviceishere]

Wine and dine her at least once a month, watch movies together, get some take out, go on walks, kiss and cuddle, do all the things a relationships NEEDS to be strong, make her feel like your girlfriend! Let me know how it goes! Good luck.

[nikkie07]

Thanks for you advice I will try that. But I don't have very long she's moving off for college in a few months.

[adviceishere]

Hey the smallest getures to make her feel special will go a long way! Even pick a follow for her once in a while or write her a poem or letter. There's so much you can do.

[nikkie07]

Well her and I just had a big dispute and she really pissed me off. Its kind of a long story but I'll try to make it short. We went to party, and after the party we went back to her place. We watched t.v. for a while (we were in her room watching t.v. on the internet) and around 11pm I fell asleep. I woke up around 3am and she was still up watching TV. Then I asked her if she could put on the movie scary movie 2 and she said ''I don't watch gay **** like that in my house I'm going to bed''. I was up and I could'nt go back to sleep so I kept talking. Then she said '' go on the couch or go home I told you I'm trying to sleep'. So I gathered my belongings and came home. Sometimes I feel as if she think she can talk to me any kind of way and I'm just suppose to take it. We talk and hang out everyday and she usually is the one who calls me first, but I'm not talking to her right now. She is moving away soon for college,so I would like for us to make up before she leaves. But maybe its just best if I just let her be.