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guesswho0603 · Apr 12, 2011, 11:11 AM

Well. Honestly, I'm not really into looking him.. just curious if he is looking for me, I don't have any idea about him, and I'm shy to ask my mom about him, so we never talked about him.. he left us when my mom got pregnant.. can I say he abandoned us.. well, that's the case, I guess.. so as I grow up with my step dad, who treated me as his own, I never got curious about my biological father, "its like the hell i care about him, he abandoned me, that means he doesnt want me, so i dont want him too", but now, as I grow older I got curious about him "a little". I don't hate him "thanks to my step dad", because. He gave me love as a real father would love his daughter. Back to the "i got curious now about my biological father" I noticed, even I'm contented and happy with my life, there is still part of me is missing. So that's why, I'm trying to find my biological father now, so I can know who I really am. So I can complete the missing piece of myself. Well all I can say is I was born in Olongapo city, philippines. My dad is an american/german.. my mom tells a different stories sometimes, that's why I get tired of asking her, I don't know what to believe. I know my mom works as a waitress in olongapo when he met my father, and she told me that my father really doesn't like her, she just beg for him to give her a white child. (bec. That's my moms dream before, to have a white kid) so.. after that my father left.. my birth date is August 30, 1989. I'm 21 yrs. Old now. Well if I was born August 30, 1989. Maybe my mom and my biological father made me on november/december 1988. Well, I know this won't help much to find me.. just trying maybe if someone looking for a lost daughter have the same story as mine.. I guess, it won't hurt trying.. pray for me, wish me luck. Thank you all for reading this. More blessings to all of us. You can email me at >Removed< if you have any idea who is my father.

JudyKayTee · Apr 12, 2011, 11:30 AM

You don't know that your naural father didn't want you or abandoned you. He may not even know about you. If your Mom is to be believed she "simply" wanted a child. She may not have even told him. You said your Mom tells various stories. I don't know how to figure out which one is true.

It would be impossible to locate your father without his name. Your mother must know what it is.

Synnen · Apr 12, 2011, 12:06 PM

At the top of the adoption forum, there is a sticky thread that lists several reunion websites.

Register on those websites, giving as much information as you can. If there is a match for your father looking for you, then they will let you know.

guesswho0603 · Apr 13, 2011, 06:13 AM

Thank you for your comment.. I really do appriciate it.. well I don't know if I have the guts to ask my mom about my biological father. Because we haven't talked about it since I was 7 or 8yrs. Old

JudyKayTee · Apr 13, 2011, 09:15 AM

It would just be so much easier if you had a name to start with. Obviously the whole topic is painful for your mother. Is there some way to approach it about, say, family medical history on your father's side?

Again - your father may not even know.

Perhaps your stepfather could help you. You love him very much - that's apparent. You aren't looking to replace him. You are just looking for your own identity. Perhaps he could speak with your Mom.