[Tara1979]

I've been with my boyfriend for about 15 months. In the beginning we had both come out of long relationships. His was a fiery but sexual one from what I can gather and she cheated on him after he had cheated on her and also tried to trap him by pretending to be pregnant and also becoming pregnany.My past relationships have not been great, sex was always fine but then my boyfriends have ran off with someone else yet say its nothing I've done and that I'm a nice girl. Great! "nice". Anyway I only tell you about our pasts as thought it might help you get a picture of us both. Now us, well in the beginning he said he treated me like no other with respect, so much so that sex was a bit awkward as I don't think he knew how to behave after a long relationship that was volatile. I'm a not a younger girlfriend where his previous ones are. Sex since then has always been a little awkward and neither of us really drink much now so never had the drunken messy sex that I think sometimes we need! Anyway, due to his work and his sport (which takes up a lot of time)sex became less and less and now its been months. I've tried to speak to him and he says he misses not having sex but is not attracted to me. This really hurts, I'm not overweight, I make myself look nice, I wear sexy underwear etc but no I don't come on to him now for fear or being rejected and now its just weird. I stopped wearing nice underwear thinking maybe he might prefer me not to - but nothing changed. Anyway, he is quite a mans man- he admits he is selfish and stubborn and I have to fit in with him but this is something else and I don't know what I should do. I feel like he wants this confident woman that is sporty and bringing in the money but I'm just normal, I earn OK money, have my house but its mortgaged (we live in his house),but I'm not confident with myself or body and not sporty. What can I do - I've told you a lot here - some you will think is nothing to do with it but I think it probably is! Thank you in advance x

[Kit6040]

This boyfriend of yours does not deserve to have you as his girlfriend. Trust me, there is someone out there that will treat you as the woman you deserve to be treated as. I do not agree with having sex out of marriage... mostly out of me being a christian.. but I don't look down on you just because you have had sex, so please don't think that. I think that you should hold a higher respect for yourself, and not have sex with the people you date. You should save it for someone who truly holds you as their most treasured aspect of their life. Even I you don't listen or agree with all I'm saying, I'd say that you shouldn't be with this boyfriend of yours. He shouldn't be a priority if you're only an option..

[Homegirl 50]

He says he is not attracted to you, why are you still there?
You say he is selfish and stubborn and he says you have to fit in with him. Why are you still there?
You are not his type except that maybe he can control you but he obviously does not care that much for you. Why are you still there?
Leave him alone. He is not the only man in the world.

[talaniman]

And you are still with this guy... WHY??

[amicon]

Time to leave him and start living your own life.

Move back to your own house and make a fresh start,working on re-building your self-esteem.