[crib52]

Ok so I'm 19 and my ex is 18 we went out for 9 months. Everything was going perfect. I meet her threw my friends because she was hanging out with them at the time She use to be into drugs a Lil and was drinking like every night.

When we first meet and. We started talking and. Then started going out she stopped all that **** and was being good not drinking not doing drugs nothing.

And for 9 months she like lived at my house sleeping over like every night my family loved her and her family loved me but things started going down hill a little after the 7th month.

We were going to chili cook off and I ended up bailing and not going and she ended up going with her friends and 2 weeks later. It was rib round up I told her I was going to go and everything she was so excited and even went to go get computer paper from her house at 1 in the morning. And I ended up not going.

But after all that she seemed fine but then she ended up get pregnant and I flipped out saying You're getting a abortion and ill pay for it all and she said okay. But my family was okay with it and so was hers but I didn't want it. I asked her if she wanted it and she said I don't know, And ended up getting the abortion and all and she said to me we need take a brake. And said bye love you I said what and she goes I want to take a brake and I said what ever and I ended up finding out the next weekend she was doing drugs like sticks every night.

Getting ****t up she ended up getting kick out her house because her parents found out. About the drugs and was kicked out for like 5 days till she stopped doing them and. I was still begging for her back. And all she keep saying to me she doesn't want to be with me.

Ever so I didn't text her for 3 days and I herd she went out to lunch with one her friends and told her she was done with me for good and then later that night I get a text from her moms phone pretended to be her mom and it was my ex the hole time trying to meet up with me so I did and. She came to me running and crying. I didn't know what to do but hug her to death and see how everything was I asst her. Is everything okay she goes I **** up everything that good happened to me in my life and I said why don't you fix it all and she said I don't know,

And I made it seem like I still want to be with her toward her and I saw her moods changed. Was like text me if you need me. And I went home I ended up getting a text later on. Say I'm sorry about everything. And she doesn't know what she wants and I said OK I want to be with you but we have to fix what you did and she goes I don't know, and I said I'm going to bed ill talk to you tomorrow and she said okay night.

The next day it hit him that I think I have lost her for good and I ended up blowing up her phone. Begging for her back. I won't text her for 3 days at a time but I keep begging for her back sometimes she says I don't know, what I want and sometimes she says she done with me for good and. She wants to be friends with me.

And its been 2 months since we broke up and I'm still begging for her. But since today I'm going no contact. Till she texts me. Idk what to do I need help

[talaniman]

Go No Contact even if she texts you or start this crazy crap all over again and go through it yet again.

Between her depression from the abortion, and the drugs being kicked out, she has made some bad decisions for herself but you have to quit begging at every chance and let her get her head together. ON HER OWN.

Sorry, I know how helpless you feel, but its for her own good.

[clafairey]

But after all that she seemed fine but then she ended up get pregnant and I flipped out saying You're getting a abortion and ill pay for it all and she said okay. But my family was okay with it and so was hers but I didn't want it. I asked her if she wanted it and she said I don't know, And ended up getting the abortion and all and she said to me we need take a brake

I think the above is your problem as to why this has become such a mess. For one, you said "She ended up getting pregnant" NO, SHE didn't end up getting pregnant, you BOTH caused this. You need to blame yourself for this too, not just her.

You pushing for her to get an abortion is completely wrong and I think this has added to her confusion as to what she feels and what she wants with you. If you did not want to be part of this child's life but she wanted it, walk away. You should have never have pushed for an abortion. OR in the first place, use protection. If you have no protection, don't have sex. Simple as.

In future, don't be so selfish.
I also agree with Talaniman.