[jevan]

How long can you be married before your spouse can get alimony? If your divorce / legal separation?

:confused: I have been divorced since 1999. My oldest is graduating this June 08. My other daughter is 15.5 they both live with me. There father is not a dead beat at all, he pays his child support every week on time.

My question:

I live in Connecticut and not sure how it goes when one child turns 18. Does my husband take me to court for a modification? Or do I take him to court? I think my ex thinks child support with be cut in half.

But do to high rising prices for gas,electric,food etc. I am unable to hold down the monthly mortgage payments. I have had an increase of 7000.00 from switching jobs. I only make before taxes 40,000 a year.
Help anyone please??

Is a father requiered to pay co-pays on the insured child? Father has health insurance on the child

Ok, so I did ask my lawyer and he said my Ex has to serve me and the judge will decide how much he will give me for one child. Or my lawyer said, If my ex gives me his last pay stub to avoid court, My lawyer could figure this out.

Question:

Can a lawyer do this ?

So my ex is giving me a hard time, so I did some research with the state of ct child support laws and I found the charts telling the amount after taxes with both incomes how much should it be.

Question:
Does anyone know :say if we both calculate our net income say 1,550.00 weekly if for one child would the amount be 270.


Thank you

[bronzebabe]

Depends on the state you live in. Call the local Court House or County Attorney

[Fr_Chuck]

No set time but alimony is not a normal thing in most likely 90 percent of divorce, there has to be specific things that happen, to require one party to pay it.

[mzdebb]

how long can you be married before your spouse can get alimony? if your divorce / legal separation?

In California you can get alimony regardless of the time you are married, but.. there are considerations as to how much you can get and how long you can get it depending on how long you were married. If you're married for a short time you get little alimony for a quick period. Many years, more money for a longer period. In some cases life time support. It is up to the discretion of the judge.

[Fr_Chuck]

Well first what does the child support agreement say, and is the child going to college, in some states, in some child support agreement, the paymets will continue though college also.

He will request the modification, and the state ( the one that controls the child support agreement) will use their forumla as to what the amount will be. Your higher mortgage payments normally has nothing to do with it, that only means you need to properly budget to afford your own bills.
And should not have a adjustable mortgage if it keeps going up.

And also not sure your cost of living, but 40,000 around here and in many places is considered a high income, the area in TN I just moved from, considered Walmart the best paying employer in town.

And to be honest around here in Atlanta, many people would do almost anything for that much a year. I know 100's of families that make a lot less than that and have to support their family.

So the support will go down a lot, esp if it has been keep up to date over the years, now if you have not had it adjusted over the last 10 years, it may not. A lot in many states depend on his income more than yours.

[twinkiedooter]

You need to consult your original child support order that was entered. It usually spells out in great detail just how long the payments are to last. Was there any sort of provision in the paperwork for college costs? Usually there are those sorts of provisions built in if both you and your ex made high wages when you were divorced. If he files a motion to terminate his child support (if your paperwork says he can) when the child is 18, the judge will have to go along with the original order. The judge will not be too interested in the fact you can't make your mortgage payment seeing that you are making more money. Sorry.

[twinkiedooter]

The best guideline would be to look at the Order the Judge signed regarding child support, health insurance, etc. Generally the cost is spelled out as to who pays for this in the Order.

[Fr_Chuck]

Only if the child support / custody order says he has to pay them.
Most I have seen splits any unpaid medical bills in 1/2 for each side, but again each custody order is very specific normally, so you will have to refer back to it.

[Fr_Chuck]

Please, Please do not start 6 or 7 posts that deal with the same subect, you give a little info here, a little info there but not enough info in any one post that anyone knows how to give you the best answer.

If you want to ADD info, just put an answer to your own question, to give more info and add to the original posts.

It was so confusing with separate questions, but then combined it is confusing also. I hope someone can now look at all of your info in one place and help you better.


As for as the support, if your state uses a standard forumla, then the attorney will place it in and see what the standard amount will be